Whether we like to admit it or not, we all have things that we are deeply afraid of. Whether we stress out when we see a spider or panic when we have to go on the subway, there are certain things that will seriously get to you in life. Often, we find that we are ashamed of these things for no real reason. It just makes no sense whatsoever. I mean, everyone is scared of something, so why not just be honest about it?
While telling a real-life human being what scares you might be absolutely terrifying, sometimes, it’s good to get these things out there. Just let the universe know that you’re imperfect and you’re not afraid to show it. That’s probably why so many people feel the need to share their fears on the likes of Whisper. Here are some that are all too real.
15. That you’re inadequate at your job
No matter how old you get, it always feels as though you’re an imposter, right? You might put on adult clothes and go off to your adult job, but on the inside, you feel like it’s all just one big joke. I mean, no one could seriously trust you with any kind of power, right? That would just be plain bonkers. You’re still a child (in your mind) and the last thing you need is a little thing called responsibility.
Like it or lump it, we all have to pretend that we’re adults now and then. You might feel that you’re an intruder at times, but it’s just not the case. You’ve worked hard to get where you are today. Own it. There’s no sense in pretending that you don’t deserve to be where you are in life.
14. That you are as bad as you think
At times, we all have a somewhat negative opinion of ourselves. The sorry truth of the matter is that we love nothing more than to tear ourselves down. No matter how our friends and family try to tell us that we’re great, we never quite believe them. Inside, we think that they are lying or trying to trick us. After all, we know the deep, dark truth – that we are an awful human being. If this thought has crossed your mind from time to time, you’re so not alone.
The fact is that we absolutely have to stop being so darn hard on ourselves. There is nothing wrong with the way that we are – and we need to all accept that. Maybe, just maybe, the people around you see the real you and it’s you who has the skewed view here.
13. That people will forget you
Life is short. If you blink, it will be over in an instant. Right now, the years might seem to stretch out before you but it won’t be that way forever. Time’s ticking and it’s only ticking down. I don’t mean to get all morbid on you, but you know that’s the truth. With that in mind, it makes sense that we all want to leave some kind of legacy. We want people to remember our names long after we’re gone. Because it’s actually the best that we can hope for in the long run.
It makes sense, then, that some of us really do fear being forgotten. If everyone forgets you after you’re gone, what was the point of living at all? If no one remembered you, it would have all been a massive waste of time.
12. That your partner doesn’t actually love you
Love is a strange thing. We’re supposed to put all logic and sense aside and just believe that someone cares deeply about us. I mean, why on earth should they? What is it about us that makes us lovable? It all seems so random that it just doesn’t make much sense.
If you’ve been hurt before or had terrible relationships, it’s only natural that you would be a little wary of love. That L-word can be scary at the best of times, for most of us. Trust is something that only comes with time, which means that many of us don’t have it at the start of a relationship. When someone says that they love you, you should be full of glee, but if you don’t believe them, that can be hard. In truth, if you want a good relationship, you have to put your fears aside and just trust the other person.
11. That something will crawl into your ears!
Okay, even I will admit that this one is a little gross. Still, there’s no denying that this fear has crossed your mind before now, right? I mean, there are that many urban legends out there about this kind of thing happening that it’s hard not to stress out about it. The very idea of something crawling deep into your ear and burrowing into your brain (gross) is actually terrifying. It’s the sort of thing that will keep you up until the wee hours if you’re not careful.
If this one is troubling you, remember that the likelihood of it actually happening is very slim. Sure, if you’re in some tropical country somewhere, this could happen. But only if you’re very unlucky. If it’s keeping you up late at night, it’s time for a reality check.
10. That your partner will betray you
When you’re in love, you will do absolutely anything for your partner. They are your world, as soppy as it sounds, and if they betray you, it can hurt more than anything else. After all, they are supposed to be the one person in life who you can truly trust. They are meant to be on your team no matter what. The very notion that they would take all that away from you is truly awful.
Still, it happens. We all know that people cheat on their partners all the time. This is not some rare thing, but a fact of life. It’s something that happens every darn day. Sorry. It’s no wonder that so many people out there share this terrible fear. The scariest thing is that it really could happen at any time.
9. That you won’t make an impact on someone else
We’ve already covered the fact that life is short AF. When it’s gone, it’s gone. One of the greatest ways that you can be sure to be remembered is to make a lasting impact on someone else’s life. But, how can you really tell whether that’s happened or not? You might think that you’re super close to someone, but they could see you as nothing more than a passing phase. Since you’re not inside their heads, there’s just no way of telling what they’re thinking.
The best impact you can make on someone’s life is to be kind to them. Kindness seems to be so rare these days, and so it could really make all the difference. Showing people a little humanity is sure to leave a lasting impression which means that you won’t be forgotten.
8. That you will lose a parent
No child wants to imagine what it’s like to lose a parent. As you grow up, the idea becomes less of a threat and more of a certain eventuality. After all, the likelihood is that you will outlive your parents. Unless something terrible happens, that is ever-so-likely to be the case.
I can’t speak for anyone else, but the very thought of carrying on without my parents here is awful. I can’t even imagine a world where that would happen. It seems like something out of a nightmare. No matter how terrible it may seem, we all have to come to terms with the fact that it could one day happen. That is what makes this fear so very real. It’s too close to home and, frankly, it’s too much to have to think about.
7. That you will fail in life
From the very minute that we start school, there is an immense amount of pressure on us. First of all, we have to learn things from the teacher, then we have to get consistently good grades. Every time we slip up, it’s a warning. The warning is that we are somehow not quite good enough for this world. That we are a failure in the making, and everyone can see it. People may not say it at the time, but we know that’s what they are thinking.
Most of us share the fear that perhaps we are inadequate – that we just won’t measure up when it comes down to it. It’s a truly horrible feeling, and one that’s all-too-familiar. Remember, only you get to define what failure is and, the chances are, that you’re doing just fine right about now.
6. That you will never find the right partner
For some screwed up reason, we live in a society where being single is comparable to some kind of disease. People think that there must be something wrong with you if you can’t find a life partner. There’s loads of pressure on us all to couple-up and find true love. Much of the time, it’s all too much to take. It’s that very pressure that makes it so damn hard to actually find a decent person and attempt to settle down.
In truth, it doesn’t matter whether you’re single or in a committed relationship. You’re still the same person. Your relationship status does not define you. It never will. When you find someone and it’s right, it’s fine to settle down. Worrying that that will never happen is a waste of time and energy, though.
5. That you can’t have kids one day
No matter what your stance happens to be on kids, if that option was taken away from you, you might feel differently. We’re all told that one of our aims in life should be to start a family. That means having our own kids and raising them. If for whatever reason, that option just disappeared, it would be a truly awful thing. I don’t know how anyone could cope with such a drastic life change as that. After all, we all take for granted that we can have kids one day.
It’s important to remember that there are people out there who can’t have children. Worrying about it is one thing, but actually going through it is unthinkable. This is one of those things in life that you cannot control, and so there’s no point worrying now.
4. That your partner will die and leave you alone
When you’ve found the person you want to spend your life with, it can be the greatest feeling in the world. But wait, what if that was all taken away from you? Most of us don’t care to think about the future and what might happen. The endless possibilities seem all-too-much to handle which is why we just don’t bother. There’s nothing scarier than imagining the horrors that our live’s have in store for us later down the road.
The idea of living after your partner is long gone is unimaginable. Now that you’ve found one another, the last thing that you want to imagine is losing them. The fact of the matter is that one of you has to go first, as horrible as it is. It just shows how very much you love your partner if this troubles you.
3. That you will choke on something
Of course, while some of us worry about the big things, there are others who are very specific in their woes. Here is a person who has a rather odd fear, but one that scares me all the same. Can you imagine choking when you’re all alone? I guess, the scary thing about this is the idea that you would know you’re in danger but not be able to do anything about it at all. You could try and get help, but if no one’s around, there’s honestly not all that much you could do.
When you start thinking about these small things, it’s easy to begin obsessing about all the things that could go wrong in your life. It’s simply not healthy. You need to distract yourself and not worry about these oh-so-unlikely things.
2. That you will disappoint your parents
When we’re young, we may fight with our parents at times. That doesn’t mean that we don’t care what they think, though. In all honesty, we all care a whole lot what our parents think of us. Deep down, all we really want is for them to be proud of us no matter what. The idea that they think we could have done better is a dark one and one we don’t like to contemplate. After all, if we’re a disappointment to them, what on earth is the point in life?
This is a lot like the fear of failure. It really looks at who we’re trying to impress with our success. I imagine most people would admit that it’s their parents who they want to prove themselves to. Making your parents proud is the greatest feeling ever.
1. That you will turn into your parents
While we may want to make our parents proud, there is one thing that very few of us want. The idea that we’re slowly becoming our parents is a shocking one, for many of us. After all, growing up, there were loads of little things that annoyed us about them. Whether it was their quirky habits or their weird phrases, there were oh-so-many things that we swore we’d never do ourselves. Twenty years down the line, we’re just like them all of a sudden. Out of nowhere, we have become them – and there’s nothing we can do about it.
Remember, whatever your fears may be, you’re probably not alone in harboring them. We all worry about things in our lives. We wouldn’t be human otherwise. The key is to get over those fears and live our lives.