Someone who suffers from alcoholism has developed a dependency on alcohol. Alcoholics struggle with a compulsion to consume alcohol, an inability to quit or reduce alcohol consumption, social and health problems, trouble meeting deadlines, and put themselves in risky situations, among other issues. While the media likes to paint those who struggle with alcoholism as malicious and unwilling to change, there are often deep-seeded reasons why these individuals turn to alcohol in the first place... Sometimes it’s to cope with extreme emotional distress, such as stemming from a recent loss or past trauma, whereas other times its to deal with mental health issues (such as lack of confidence, anxiety, or depression). These heartbreaking Whisper confessions show that there are a lot of devastating and even understandable reasons why people abuse alcohol. Even though they might not seem like it, many of these people are ashamed of and want to curb their alcohol addiction. Hopefully these confessions will provide you with a little bit of insight into alcoholism and will help you empathize with those who live with it.
14 Dealing with Death
Mourning is never easy and the grief process is different for everyone. People find comfort and refuge in different things during this time, but some people turn to drugs and alcohol to ease their pain. After losing their best friend, this Whisper user confesses they began abusing pills and alcohol to cope with their grief. Though they recovered for a time, they revealed they later relapsed due to the death of their Grandmother and demise of a 5-year relationship.
It’s understandable why someone may turn to alcohol to deal with a loss, but that doesn’t mean it’s in any way healthy. Becoming reliant on alcohol to handle your emotions only bottles your feelings away and doesn’t address the real problem. It can only make matters worse, especially if it turns into alcoholism. Hopefully this Whisper user found the strength to overcome their addictions and were able to deal with their losses in a healthier way.
Digging a Hole
Many people believe alcohol can help ease their pain or anxiety, when in reality it may only make things worse. Substance abuse may have short-term benefits, such as being an escape from the stresses of reality, but it more often than not leads to long-term consequences that can be devastating. While you may think it will make you feel better in the moment, alcohol can severely affect your attitude and mood (and perhaps more), as shown by this Whisper confession.
This Whisper user appears to have believed alcohol could help with their depression and anxiety, but they confess that it has only made things worse. They also fear they may be suffering from other mental health problems brought on by their substance abuse, such as delirium and psychosis. The confessor is terrified of what their alcohol usage could have brought on, so we hope they sought professional help to both quit their addiction and relieve their mental distress.
13 All By Myself
Sometimes alcohol can feel like a friend when you feel all alone. It can help things feel vibrant and exciting or at least less gloomy than before. This Whisper confessor admitted they abuse alcohol because it helps them cope with loneliness. We wish we could find this anonymous poster in real life and give them a huge hug because it’s heartbreaking to hear when anyone feels alone.
If you are suffering from loneliness, alcohol only offers a temporary relief and doesn’t resolve the actual problem. The more one abuses alcohol to deal with loneliness, the worse their feelings of isolation are going to become. We’re hopeful that this Whisper user was able to surround themselves with loving people who never make them feel alone and that they were able to stop using alcohol to fill that void.
Depression can be a dangerous thing, especially when left unacknowledged and untreated. If you feel like you’re suffering from symptoms of depression, the last thing you should be picking up is a bottle of booze. However, many individuals who do suffer from feelings of unhappiness do sometimes turn to alcohol to number their pain.
This heartbreaking confession reveals one alcoholic’s struggle to remain sober. They thought being sober would make them happy, but it appears alcohol was only able to mask pain that was never properly dealt with. Many alcoholics describe using alcohol to “numb” their feelings, so we empathize with this confessor’s struggle to stay sober. Hopefully they were able to locate the source of their unhappiness and address it so they can avoid relying on alcohol to make themselves feel better.
11 Telling the Truth
It sounds like this Whisper user has an even larger secret to reveal than their battle with alcoholism. They explain they abuse alcohol in order to keep the truth down, implying there is something so devastating they are carrying that they can’t even speak about it. It must be incredibly difficult to deal with alcoholism, but even worse to deal with that on top of hiding something that is obviously emotional and unsettling.
Alcohol is known for being a distraction, whether you drink it only at social functions or are known to have a problem with it. It’s easy to forget about your problems when you’re high off of the euphoria of feeling drunk. Or at least your mind is occupied by others things so it doesn’t begin worrying. But, at the end of the day, alcohol only works to keep your secrets buried and only the truth will set you free.
10 Fleeing Friends
Admitting to yourself that you have a problem with substance abuse is difficult enough. But confessing this to your friends and family is absolutely terrifying. It’s unnerving to not know how loved ones will react to such alarming news, whether they’ve known about your struggles or not. While you want them to react with love and support, they may also react with disappointment and anger.
This Whisper user shared that they are afraid of losing their friends if they attempt to become sober. Sobriety takes a toll on a person, so you probably won’t be your same happy-go-luck self while you’re in the process of sobering up. But, you should hope your friends and family would be their to support you in this difficult time. While they have a right to be concerned and even upset with you, they should still want the best for you (and that is, of course, is to be sober). If your loved ones can’t support you through this process, then you may want to evaluate who you’re surrounding yourself with.
9 Recovery to Relapse
It’s always heartbreaking to hear of an addict who was on the road to recovery only to relapse once more. This Whisper user reveals their struggles with alcoholism. After becoming sober, they thought they would be able to enjoy alcohol in moderation, without the desire to drink more. However, they explain they quickly fell back into their old habits, but this time even worse.
They always say once you’re an alcoholic, you’re always an alcoholic. But that’s not meant to be a negative phrase. What it’s trying to imply is that you never truly overcome the compulsion to drink after you’ve become an alcoholic. While you may believe you will be able to drink in moderation, the longing to drink more and more will only get worse, just like it did for this Whisper confessor. It’s crucial to stay completely dry and sober if you’re an alcoholic so that you don’t fall back into old patterns.
8 Drowning Your Feelings
This Whisper confession says what a lot of alcoholics know to be true. That is, the person uses alcohol to cope with emotions they have never properly addressed. Alcohol is used to push down and numb painful and sometimes debilitating emotions, though it never truly resolves the problem. Before long, old, painful feelings always re-emerge and it takes even more alcohol to keep them down at that point.
There are so many healthier, productive ways to deal with your emotions rather than alcohol or another dangerous substance. Seeking professional help will likely lead to the best results, so consulting a mental health professional if you have unresolved emotions that your alcoholism is masking may be in your best interest. Even occupying your time with a new hobby or activity can channel your emotions into something other than booze, helping you to successfully relieve and address your emotions.
7 Physical Pain
Alcohol isn’t always used to numb emotional pain. This Whisper user reveals they abuse alcohol in order to deal with physical pain. They reveal that their OTC medication doesn’t do enough and they can’t afford to visit a doctor, so they rely on alcohol in order to relieve their pain. They say they have no other option, but yet they still feel ashamed and know their actions are wrong.
This confession points to a larger problem with the health system. It’s ridiculous someone would have to turn to alcohol to deal with physical pain since they can’t afford proper medical treatment. Alcohol should never be considered ‘alternative medicine’ because that can easily lead to alcoholism, which can have a variety of other unintended health consequences. We hope this user was able to figure out a way to receive proper medical care so they could both curb their alcohol dependency and address their physical pain.
6 Lost Trust
This Whisper user should be incredibly proud of themselves for reducing their alcohol consumption, even if it has only been a week. However, it’s unfortunate to hear that their loved ones don’t seem to believe they’re actually taking steps towards sobriety. Someone who is going through the sobering process needs the support and love of their friends and family-not judgement or ridicule.
We can’t imagine how frustrating it must feel for people to not believe this confessor is actually turning their life around. Hopefully their friends and family eventually came around and realized how impressive this actually is and offered their support. If your friends and family fail to support your during the sobering process, then you might need to re-evaluate who is in your life. You should never let anyone’s negativity discourage you from taking steps necessary to improve your life, so hopefully this Whisper confessor didn’t end their sobriety simply because no one believed them.
5 Burdens of an Artist
Artists in the entertainment world are known for substance abuse, whether their poison is drugs, alcohol, or both. Perhaps it’s the pressures of stardom or the toll it takes on their personal life, but, either way, finding a healthy way to help cope with the stress and drama of the entertainment business is essential.
This Whisper user confesses they turned to alcohol to help calm their nerves and increase their confidence before performances. They were able to stay sober for a year until the death of their best friend, which they then cite as the reason they relapsed back into their old ways. Both stress and grief are two powerful emotions that can drive a person towards substance abuse. But, like this confession shows, this never really resolves the problem. Even if you’ve been sober for some time, it’s easy to fall back into old ways and everyone knows the relapse is always ten times worse. Stay strong and believe in yourself.
4 Always Anxious
Here’s another Whisper user who believes alcohol can help with their mental health, such as anxiety or depression. This confessor reveals they drink alcohol in order to manage their severe anxiety. Though it appears that it may be working for them, we can’t imagine how long tuning out your anxiety by drinking alcohol will work. And if we had to take a guess, we would say it wouldn’t work for very long.
There are so many other healthier ways to help manage your anxiety. Confide in a trusted friend or a mental health professional. Pay a visit to your doctor to see if its something that can be treated medically, or invest your time in a new hobby or project that will help distract you and calm your nerves. As many of these Whisper confessions have expressed, alcohol is only a temporary solution and can bring forth many unintended consequences. So you should be weary about using alcohol to deal with any negative emotions.
3 Ashamed of Myself
A lot of people drink alcohol before or during social functions to help them become more outgoing and less reserved. Booze can help increase confidence (sometimes, too much), but it can also make you dependent on it if you’re not careful. This Whisper confession revealed how ashamed this person is of their alcohol abuse. They explain they drink so much in order to feel more comfortable talking to strangers during work. But, they also reveal that their drunk self still isn’t their real self.
While alcohol can push you out of your bubble, you have to remember that your drunk self is a lot different than your sober self. "Drunk you" can be fun and outgoing, but it’s not a good side to show if you need to remain professional and work-oriented, like this confessor. There are other ways to overcome social shyness or anxiety rather than turning to alcohol, so we hope this Whisper user found them sooner than later.
2 Forgetting the Past
This confession shows that your rate of alcohol consumption is greatly linked to the stressors coming in and out of your life. The anonymous poster behind this confession reveals they developed a problem with alcohol to cope with painful memories of their abusive father. They only started drinking again when he came back into their life, showing how powerful stress and unaddressed feelings can be.
We completely understand why this Whisper user would be inclined to abuse alcohol, both when they first began and then when they relapsed. However, it doesn’t mean that this coping strategy is any less harmful. The main thing we hope the confessor did was remove themselves from this horrible situation, such as by cutting off contact with their abusive father and seeking professional help for their past demons. Only then can this user move forward alcohol-free and begin living life without this burden weighing them down.
1 Spiralling Downwards
This confession says it all. Once it’s easier for you to pick up a bottle than face the realities of your life, then you know you have a problem with alcoholism. Even worse, it is usually a sign that you’re spiralling downwards and you’ll continue to fall unless you do something to resolve the problem.
It sounds like this confessor has some firsthand experience with alcoholism, whether it was through their own or a loved one’s battle with booze. Either way, this piece of advice may be hard to swallow, but there’s never been anything truer when it comes to alcoholism. If you feel like you’re falling into something that you’ll have trouble overcoming in the future, seek help now before it becomes too much to deal with. You’ll never get better unless you recognize you have a problem and do something about it.
These Whisper confessions show the reality of living with alcoholism. It can be absolutely devastating for the person with the addiction as well as their friends and family. Alcohol abuse can ruin relationships, families, and entire lives. The most important thing is to be supportive and understanding of someone who is struggling with alcohol addiction. It’s of course okay to approach them if you’re concerned they have a problem, but do so in a non-judgemental way that shows all you want to do is help. Be supportive, loving, and patient with those going through the sobering process so they don’t fall back into old habit. But, most of all, try not to judge those with alcoholism. While violence or abuse stemming from alcoholism should never be tolerated or excused, it’s important to try to be understanding because you never know the true reason someone abuses alcohol- and, more often than not, the reason will be heartbreaking.