No two people are the same, which means no two relationships will be the same either. Every relationship is unique but regardless of race, gender, age - we all go through the same experiences. As you know, relationships aren't a walk in the park (unless we're talking about Jurassic park) and sometimes, problems will crop up. Some of these problems are trivial but other times they can potentially be damaging.
When you're in love, you put up with a lot of things. Hair in the sink, singing in the shower, farting - you name it. And you can't complain because this is exactly what you signed up for. Although relationships aren't all fun and games, it might just be the best thing that's ever happened to you. Here are a few tweets that accurately describe being in a relationship.
15 The first date
I relate to this more than I'd like to admit. I worry about the smallest things, even if I have absolutely no control over it.
Before going on a first date, I start thinking about everything that could go wrong. I could urgently need to go to the toilet as soon as I get there, or I could spill spaghetti all over my dress. Either way, the outcome is always me running out of there and hoping to never see them again.
Of course, first dates aren't always that bad but I know I'm not the only one who HATES being asked what I like to do for fun. It makes me realize just how boring my life is. So instead, why don't we just start asking people what they worry about for fun? It would lead to an interesting discussion.
14 Deciding where to eat
Ah, the dreaded, "Where do you want to eat?" question that nobody wants to answer. In fairness, choosing a place to eat shouldn't be a hard decision but it's been known to cause arguments. It has to be somewhere that you both agree on. Now, if one of you has food allergies and the other is vegan, that's when it becomes difficult because you're left with fewer options. Still, you're not a mind reader, so there's no way of telling if your partner is happy with your choice. What if they're just agreeing to keep you happy but they're secretly disappointed? Personally, I hate being asked this question as I hate having that responsibility. Why can't we just put the names of places in a hat and pick one? It would be a hell of a lot easier.
Relationships are supposed to be about compromise, but there are certain situations when that concept flies out of the window at full speed. I mean, if one of you wants something and the other one doesn't, then what do you do? Well, you try your best to get your own way. Sometimes, this requires a lot of persuasion and other times, all you have to do is look at your significant other and say, "please" and it does the trick. I think we're all guilty of this because, at the end of the day, we all want to get our own way. And sure, there are times when you have to sit through an awful TV show just to keep your partner happy. Like I said, relationships are about compromise.
12 Stealing food
Girls are known for stealing their boyfriend's clothes, so why would food be any different? I can definitely relate to this. Sometimes, you don't realize just how hungry you are until someone is sitting beside you with a burger and fries and your mouth starts watering. At that point, it's probably too late to order some food for yourself, so the only other option is to share your partner's food and hope that they won't mind. Obviously, the SO with the food is never going to be happy about it because they ends up with less food but I see it more as a bonding experience. After all, sharing is caring. Seriously, find you a person who is willing to share their food. That's true love.
11 Apologizing for being funny
It's a strange world we live in when we have to apologize for saying something that was witty and hilarious. But I get it. There are times when a joke can be taken a little too far and someone ends up getting offended. You have to know when to stop. Otherwise, you could be saying goodbye to your relationship. If you're anything like me, you're probably so comfortable around your partner that sometimes you don't realize that something you say could be taken the wrong way. I always assume that my boyfriend will find my joke as funny as I do. It's disappointing, and awkward when he takes it the wrong way. Regardless, relationships involve saying the words, "I'm sorry" on repeat in the hope that your partner doesn't leave you.
10 Beginning vs now
In the beginning of the relationship, you get used to sending long, heartfelt paragraphs to each other expressing your love and admiration. This is the "honeymoon phase" where you literally can't get enough of this person and you feel the urge to tell them how you feel every 5 seconds. People will tell you that this feeling doesn't last forever, and believe me, you should listen to them. I can't pinpoint the moment when everything changes, it's almost like it happens overnight but suddenly you realize how annoying they are. You could say, the rose tinted glasses have fallen off. But let me tell you if your partner isn't the most annoying person you've ever met, then they're probably not the one. It's a sign that you've found your soulmate.
9 Cold feet
Let's face it, nothing says "I love you" like your partner letting you put your cold feet on them in the middle of the night. Seriously, it's the ultimate sign that your relationship is made to last.
For some reason, I always have cold feet and hands so I rely heavily on my boyfriend to warm me up and let me tell you, there's no better feeling than having a human water bottle. Relationships are about sacrifices and unfortunately, this is something that you have to learn to appreciate. Don't get me wrong, I sympathize with anyone who has to have cold feet on their back when they're trying to sleep but it's one of those little things that make a relationship what it is.
8 Netflix and chill
In the early stages, Netflix and chill might have had a completely different meaning but in a long-term relationship, Netflix and chill literally means Netflix and chill. There's no hidden meaning - you watch the show.
I guess the more time you spend together, the more you realize that just sitting there watching a really good show together is enough. It really is the little things in a relationship that make it so worthwhile. Let's be honest, there's nothing better than cuddling your favorite person while eating snacks and watching Netflix. It's an amazing combo. Anyone in a long-term relationship knows that you should never take these things for granted because they're actually the best moments.
7 Memes are everything
How do you show someone you truly love and cherish them in 2017? You tag them in memes. I can definitely relate to this because my boyfriend and I tag each other in memes all of the time. The way I see it, tagging someone in a meme is an expression of love. You saw something that made you think of them, so you thought you would share it with them and brighten up their day. Now, who wouldn't want that? Relationships might be confusing but no matter what problems you are going through, I guarantee that memes will bring you closer together. Honestly, I'd be worried if your partner isn't tagging you in any memes as that means they're probably not the one for you.
6 You want attention 24/7
Sometimes, you don't realize how clingy you are until you're in a relationship. I used to cringe at the couples expressing their love for each other over Instagram or tweeting about how much they miss each other after a day.
I never thought I'd be like that with anyone until I met my boyfriend. Admittedly, I tried to not get too attached. I tried and failed. Eventually, you have to give in and accept that you're shamelessly in love - there's nothing embarrassing about that. I could spend all day with my boyfriend and I still won't want to leave. What you might see as being clingy is actually your way of showing how much you care and I think that's pretty damn important.
5 Meeting the parents
Meeting the parents is probably the most nerve-wracking step in every relationship. You could be meeting your future in-laws, so naturally, you want to make a good impression. If you mess it up you've messed it up for good and you might as well leave and never come back.
If you're anything like me, you never get any further than the "talking stage" so when you finally get into a relationship and they suggest meeting their parents, it comes as a shock. The thought of meeting the parents is so terrifying that you try to put it off for as long as possible. When you finally meet them, you realize that you made a big deal out of nothing.
Still, once you get past this stage you know that things MUST be serious.
4 Arguing is like...
Kermit perfectly describes arguing in a relationship. The thing is that it's so hard to let go of something that has annoyed you in the past. You could be arguing about something completely trivial like who ate the last chicken nugget but then one of you decides to bring up something that happened months ago just to prove their point. Let's be honest, relationships can sometimes be competitive, and petty. No one wants to be the one who's wrong and no one wants to be the one to crack first. This means that fights can drag on for longer than they should. Most of the time, it's completely pointless because no one wins. You both lose. Maybe *one of us* should suck it up and apologize. But will it ever be you? Of course not.
3 Making each other smile
Now, I don't know about you, but THIS is the definition of relationship goals. Dogs equate to happiness. The more dogs there are, the happier the world is going to be. Sometimes, it's nice to be reminded of all the kinds of dog breeds there are.
When I'm feeling down, I cuddle my dog. If he's not around, then I look at pictures of dogs to remind myself how amazing these creatures are. I also rely on my boyfriend to send me pictures of the cutest dogs on the internet. We follow some of the same dog Instagram accounts, so sending each other messages like, "check out that new picture of Ducky the Yorkie" is part of our relationship. We're constantly trying to lift each other up and I think that's what counts for something. It doesn't take much to show someone you love them.
2 Consulting group chat
In the early stages asking friends for advice is essential. Even if they're not great at taking their own advice, they're good at giving it. So, when something happens, these are the people who you turn to.
It's difficult in the beginning as you're still getting to know each other and you don't want to come across as clingy or annoying. That's when the group chat becomes a real lifesaver. They're the ones who will help you craft a message or give you their opinion of what selfie you should send because they know what it's like to be in that situation.
Trust me, they've been there from the very first date and you can bet that they'll be there on your wedding day.
When you're in a long-term relationship, you'll discover that some things become repetitive. It's not always a bad thing because it means that you're really comfortable with each other, but it does mean that you have to listen to the same jokes that you've probably heard at least 63 times before.
It's funny because sometimes your partner doesn't realize how many times they've told the same joke until you point it out and chances are, they'll start telling it even more just to annoy you. Still, if you can laugh every time you hear another one of their jokes, then it shows that you're clearly meant to be together. After all, no one else would ever find them as hilarious as you do and that's a true sign of love.