Online dating has become more and more popular since the creation of Tinder. If you’re single and looking for love, all you have to do is download the app and start swiping until you find the woman or man of your dreams. It’s that simple. At first it can feel really exciting talking to new people and arranging dates. I mean, what could go wrong? But you’ll soon discover that online dating can be stressful, time-wasting, and downright scary at times. You could spend weeks exchanging messages, getting to know each other, making plans; only for them to cancel last minute and leave you sitting in a restaurant by yourself, wondering what went wrong. And sometimes swiping right turns out to be one of the worse decisions you could have made. These real-life dating stories may put you off using Tinder ever again.
15 Birthday party
“Buddy of mine hit it off with this girl and after a few days, she invited him over to a house party. 'Sure,' he says, what could go wrong? He shows up and is introduced to a few of her friends, all guys. As the night carries on, more and more guys show up and very few girls are actually at the party. After they start talking about how they all know this girl they find out that she invited them all from Tinder. Every guy was there not to hook up, but to populate this chick's birthday party.” – AJTTOTD
14 iPhone charger
“Started speaking to this guy on Tinder a few months ago. He seemed alright, but not my normal type. Regardless, we started speaking for a couple of days. I didn't realize how stupid I was until now, but I mentioned where I worked.
The night I mentioned my workplace, I saw a guy walk past that looked a lot like him. I hadn't met him in person so I wasn't 100%. I forgot about it and a couple of days later, it was quiet in work but my phone battery was low. I said I'd speak to him later before my phone died. Queue him coming in 10 minutes later with a fucking iPhone charger. Yes, this might have been a nice gesture if you know, I'd actually met him face to face before.
This was really weird because he said he lived the other side of the city from where I work. I wanted to cut ties straight away, but I thought I'd return the charger after I finished work.
He said he would be in a bar around the corner, so when I finished I met up with him, gave him his charger and made some excuse to go home. To my horror, I saw on his Instagram that he'd taken a smiling selfie earlier in the day with the caption 'I'm now a taken man ;)'. I'd seen him like not even twice.
To make it even scarier, for a good few weeks, every time I'd finish work I would see him casually walking past on his own, exactly at the time I finished. Really creeped me out for a while.” - yellski_
13 Liquor store
“Showed up to the restaurant, waited about 30 minutes. Ordered myself some food and was about to leave when he texted me: 'There's a liquor store across the street from the restaurant, can you pick me up 2 six-packs?'
I told him I wouldn't. He says he's decided to play frisbee with his dog instead. Deleted app, went to liquor store, picked up wine and went home.
He texted me for a month or so after to tell me he's just bought tickets to see me dance (I'm a retired ballerina, haven't been in anything for a few years). Then he texts me an hour after and tells me how great I was on stage. I never responded.
Dating is too confusing. I'm all done.” - buttermuseum
12 Name confusion
"It was our second date, I was pretty into her and the first date was really good so I was expecting a great night.
She suggested we go to a favourite bar of hers, have a few drinks and chill out. When we get there, we discover a load of her friends sitting around in a group. She introduces me and sheepishly mentions we met on Tinder. This gains me a few weird looks. One guy (who happened to look quite like me) reacts a little more obviously to the rest.
My date introduces her friends and goes off to get drinks, leaving me to the groups collective judging stare. The dude who looks like me says 'What was your name again?' After I say it, the group turn to mutter to each other. He smiles wryly and asks 'What about your full name?' When I tell him, the group erupts in laughter.
Turns out the guy who looked like me was in fact her ex....who also happened to have the same first and last name as me. Made for some incredibly awkward conversation." - dougal0
11 Camera roll
“There was this guy, he was a solid 10 in his pictures. He messages me, asks me if I want to meet up for coffee, so I say yes. He messages me and tells me that I have to pick him up... Okay whatever, I'll do it. I pick him up, and we decided to go eat instead, he's super funny and cute so we hang out some more after dinner. Then he pulls out his phone and proceeds to tell me that he has a son and his baby momma took off to Washington (but has no idea what part or anything) with him and he hasn't seen him in months. So he then takes out his phone and tells me to go through a folder on his phone of pictures of his son. Like 300 of them. He sat there and made me look through every single one, and he would tell me the back story to basically every single video and photo in that folder. I felt so bad, but man I was happy when he left.” - Savannahsusername
10 Picky Eater
"I needed a date to passover dinner with my friends. He wore a vest and a news boy hat, then introduced himself with a bow and a heat flourish. The night only got worse from there. He refused to eat any of the food because 'things on the plate were touching' (It was fucking soup) and wouldn't shut his mouth during the 12 minutes of seder. When it came time for his train home he purposely missed it so he could stay the night. HAHA NOPE. After a movie with uncomfortable levels of hoverboob, I convinced my friend to come with me to drive him to the nearest train station. During the ride he thought was the best time to tell me he was schizophrenic but didn't take medicine because 'it was the devil'. He tried to hold my hand saying that they were small and made him feel like a paedophile.
The night ended with him telling me he was going to shit on the subway and write my name in it.
There was no second date." - Saramanders
9 Coffee date
"Last summer I met this girl who seemed pretty normal for a quick coffee date. She wasn't exactly the prettiest girl ever, but I'm no looker either so it wasn't a problem. We were supposed to grab coffee but the date started with her shopping for purses in a luxury shop for about an hour while I just stood there playing with my phone. I know I should have just left right then but I'm actually quite patient with people and also not that smart.
Eventually we got to the coffee shop. During the actual date part she proceeded to monologue about religion, her family's money, her exes, her dream wedding and our future relationship. I'm from a pretty left-leaning country myself, but that was one too many red flags for me, so I gently turned her down. To my surprise she refused my rejection and said it had to be a 'joint decision'. After arguing about my rejection I pretty much ran away. She called me at midnight the same day and told me that I had to go to a second date. Luckily I was literally leaving the continent the next day for a few weeks. She called me 10 times during my trip and sent me about 20 messages trying to set up the next date.
She still texts me every once in a while and I'm still afraid." - Demogais
8 Bar hopping
"So after a few days of using Tinder, I stopped launching the app but left my profile active, so I kept getting a few matches. Well one night my friends and I decide to go bar hopping in a pretty well popular area because why not?
We're all pretty smashed at a bar, and I'm wearing the same sweater in my profile picture. Apparently some girl I matched with sent me a few messages (I checked it was 10 within a 2 hour period) and I never responded. She recognizes me and starts yelling at me! Mind you I didn't have any idea what was going on as I'm drunk off my ass. She's going psycho saying 'WTF TheadventuringPanda, why did you never respond to me?!' I responded with 'Who are you?'. Apparently this drove her nuts. She started yelling combinations of words I've never heard before, then she grabbed my drink and threw it in my face, then security came and threw us both out on our asses. She then followed my buddies and I to the car and is yelling and screaming still. While we were driving off she threw her shoe at the car. My buddies were laughing the entire time. I think i'm just gonna stay inside for the rest of my life." - theadventuringpanda
7 The burrito story
"En route to the Worst Date Ever, this guy texted me from the burrito place we were meeting, to tell me he’d already ordered me the salad. I repeat: SALAD. At a burrito place. Also, was this the past? Was I now incapable of placing my own food order? Anyway… After arriving – with my salad ready, beside his plate of tacos – he spent the next half an hour telling me about his model ex-girlfriend and how passionate their ‘breakup sex’ had been… last weekend. The final straw was – even after telling him I wasn’t a big fan of smoking – he literally asked a stranger for cigarettes and then chain smoked them beside me." - HarveyGonzales
6 Train journey
"This didn't actually come about through Tinder, but rather through an equivalent app. So, I meet the guy there and he's just incredible. Clever, good-looking, funny... You get the type. The only catch is that he doesn't live in my city. After a couple of weeks of messaging and phone calls, we decide to meet up and we settle on that I would be going to him because I'd never been to his city and that seemed like a fun little adventure. Right? WRONG. The big day comes and I embark on the 2.5-hour train journey and I get all excited and I can't wait to get off the train - and then he's not at the platform when I get off. Try to call him to no avail and after four hours of waiting, I decide to take the next train back home. Haven't heard from him since." - JulieStrike2991
5 Unexplained sickness
"Happened a year ago. Met this guy. Similar interests, looked great in his pictures. We decided to meet up on a Sunday for lunch. I was so hungover from a friend's Christmas party that I threw up upon arrival. He didn't seem to mind. He didn't order a drink and I couldn't order one due to the hangover. Once the hangover subsided, I suggested we walk around and head into a bar. He doesn't like the first bar, had a 'bad experience' at the next bar, and keeps on passing on them. Until we finally get to his favorite bar. He orders drinks, and after a few more drinks I suggest heading to a wine bar. He passes, because he confesses that he's only 20. And while his profile said he worked at a local college, it was a work study position, because he is a junior there. Maybe it was the hangover, maybe it was the exhaustion, but I still brought him home. Things occurred, and I found out he was a virgin. He ran away in tears and threw up on my apartment stairs. Repeated the process once he was 21, and it was almost the same situation. Never again." - jabberwocky_
4 Third wheel
"Went on a date with shy Armenian girl, new to town didn't know anyone. No big deal I'm friendly. She's shy and to loosen up she starts drinking.... but she doesn't stop she's tiny too maybe 95 pounds 5'1". So after awhile she is just plastered. Dancing on the table tops. I want to leave her but I'm not a scummy guy and it doesn't feel safe. She ends up wanting to bar hop so we do. I convince her not to drink anymore.
She starts making out with random guys. Is she their problem now? No, she still has me escorting her around. Makes out with a bartender etc. Now we make it to a new spot she's making out with a guy full on and I run into my ex with her current boyfriend.
Yeah my date was making out with her boyfriend's Rugby teammate... I ended up awkwardly hanging out with my ex while my 'date' left with the teammate. She ran into me again days later and was very embarrassed."- metarinka
3 Emotionally attached
"First date, tells me I've already ruined the night because I chose to sit on the bar side of the restaurant. Second date, she got us kicked out of my favorite restaurant for yelling at 2 guys wearing Pats jerseys. Not a Pats fan, don't really care. But I don't have enough time for me to get a to-go box for my favorite appetizer, their fries with 4 sauces. 2 weeks go by, calls crying because I didn't call her on my birthday. I agree to a post-birthday lunch date. Tell her I'm not interested in continuing seeing her, she runs to to the bathroom crying (this is date 3, don't even know her last name). I take a bit of her sandwich. Pay for the lunch, walk home. This is 1 of 3 awful tinder experiences, I'm not sure I'm ready to try again." - Gravybabe
2 Expensive purse
"Went on a date with a girl who told me about 3 of her ex-boyfriends (of the past 2 years) in the first 15 minutes of our date. One committed suicide, one died in a car accident, and the last "had to be gay because... who would dump this." Every time she went to the bathroom she would leave her "expensive purse" and asked me not to leave, because if I left and someone stole her purse it would be on my conscience. She also picked a restaurant that her ex-boyfriend (previous of the other 3) was a chef at and said the Lamborghini parked outside was his." - MrMet86
1 Charity case
"So I've been to quite a few tinder dates, mostly ranges from boring to totally fun, all are standard except one. This one I have only spoken to her a day before, not much of conversation either. So the next day, as we both happen to be free and in the city, decided to meet up and have dinner. As I met her, let's say she looks nothing like her picture, a whole different color tone altogether, she was really tanned unlike her fair tone in the pictures, lotsa lighting and filter I presume, no big deal. We picked a restaurant, ordered and I payed for the meal. During dinner conversation, found out she faked her age in her profile, shes actually 33 instead of 27, and I am 25 (Should be red flag there). Nearing the end of the date, she started talking about her money problem, how she only has 5 dollars on her and how her boss is gypping her, meaning she expected me to pay and that I was a free meal. Even worse, she asked if I can buy her shampoo and that she'll pay me back tomorrow. Just as a charity case, since she is that desperate, I'm like yeah why not. Went to the supermarket, she grabbed toothpaste, big size body wash, shampoo and conditioner. She came back to me smiling, as I was in awe of what just happened and still processing the whole damn thing. She then said she forgot to get lotion. As soon as she went on the other aisle, I literally legged it, ran away, and unmatch her straight away. " - Gundrek