It has been 12 years since the brilliant wisdom of Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte and Samantha graced our screens. These four New York women supported us through first dates, first jobs and first high-fashion outfits. They were there for us after every break up and consoled us after a bad haircut. We turned to them for relationship advice, fashion advice and career advice. And while not all of their advice worked out perfectly on screen, they always managed to figure it out with a little help from their friends. Because regardless of babies or boys, these four women were soulmates. And over six seasons and two movies, they certainly had a lot to teach us. From dealing with glass ceilings and being left at the altar to infertility and breast cancer, these women have been through a lot and always made it through to the other side together. So let's see what they want to teach us:
15 Get The Most From Your Workouts
The modern woman needs to multi-task; there's just not enough time in the day to get it all done! So your workout becomes your time to catch up on a podcast, check emails and plan your grocery trip. How else can we make our workouts more efficient? Well, let's ask Ms. Carrie Bradshaw. The fitness guru herself suggests an extra dose of gossip to really get that heart pumping. And who are we to argue with Carrie? The woman has written multiple books, had a bus ad, walked a New York fashion runway, and appeared in a bridal magazine spread. Is there anything this woman can't do? She clearly has it all figured out. So if Carrie says we just have to gossip with our girlfriends the next time we hit the gym, who are we to argue? Meet you at the treadmills, Bradshaw.
14 Enjoy A Balanced Diet
Carrie Bradshaw is no culinary genius. The woman regularly admits to using her oven as an overflow closet where she keeps her sweaters. The one time she attempted to use her kitchen for cooking, she found a mouse. And it's safe to say that all she keeps stocked in there is stale crackers and alcohol. But that doesn't mean Carrie doesn't know the importance of a good meal. She lives in New York City – one of the best foodie cities in the world! So you better believe the woman knows good food. Who needs a stove top when you have Seamless? So who are we to judge Carrie's choice to add a cosmo to her drive-thru order? In fact, maybe she's onto something. The usual fries and burger could probably benefit from a sophisticated drink. And if you ask Carrie, a cosmo goes with everything.
13 Give It The Old College Try
Samantha Jones was always the most blunt and daring of the four women. She was the risk taker. She was the first to volunteer for almost anything. And while it often made us cringe and landed Samantha in some hot water, we have to admire her gutsy attitude. In fact, we want to more than admire it, we want to emulate it. Most of us could use a bit more of Samantha's bravery in our own lives. Samantha was never one to sit on the sidelines and it is about time we follow in her footsteps. So yeah, sign us up! Sure, we'll try that new trapeze yoga class our gym is offering, even though the idea of doing yoga suspended in the air sounds awful. At least we'll have Samantha to blame when things go awry and we're stuck upside down in the straps with a huge wedgie.
12 Know Your Worth
All joking aside, self-esteem is a huge issue with women and girls today. Our self-confidence is notoriously low and we do a disservice to ourselves and our fellow women when we continually put ourselves down and believe we're not enough. We are enough, ladies! That's where Charlotte's wisdom comes in. Sure, she may have said this while drunkenly riding the Staten Island Ferry. But it's true. She is nice, pretty and smart. So are you. And so am I. So why don't any of us believe it? Why can our drunk selves say how awesome we are but our sober selves deny it? Let's take a step forward for self-empowerment and begin to say loudly and proudly that we are worthwhile. And if we say it to ourselves enough times, hopefully we'll start to believe it.
11 Put Yourself First
Women are often judged and shamed anytime they try to put their needs in front of anyone else's. Your husband comes first, or your kids, or your boss, or your family. But never you. If dinner is on the table, the laundry is done, you took your work home with you and you agreed to take your mom to the doctor, then you have society's permission to maybe put your feet up for .5 seconds before someone else needs something from you. And that is why we love Samantha. Because she knew what she was worth and she had no problem putting herself first. It's not selfish, it's self-love. She was in a situation that wasn't making her happy so she prioritized her happiness and got out. Way to go, Sam. We're right behind you.
10 Ask For What You Want
Another piece of wisdom from the SATC ladies: know what you want and then ask for it. No one can read your mind! If you want something from someone, you have to ask for it. So when you've been working at the same company for a few years and know you deserve a raise, you go into your boss' office and you ask for one! Or when the waiter brings you the wrong meal, you ask for the one you originally ordered. Or when your boyfriend-turned-fiance asks you if you want an engagement ring and that's not your style, you tell him no and insist on something you actually want. Like a big closet! Sure, Carrie ended up getting both the ring and the closet in the end, but that's besides the point. She asked for what she wanted and she got it.
9 If You Love Them, Let Them Know
Now I am the first one to say that Mr. Big had his faults. The man was a commitment-phobe and spent the better part of six seasons playing with Carrie's mind and her emotions. He had an affair with her, he left her for Paris and he (spoiler alert, if you haven't seen the movie) left her at the altar. So Mr. Big was definitely no Mr. Perfect. However, he did have his perfect moments. One lesson Big taught us is that if you love someone, you need to let them know. Tell them how you feel when you feel it, because who knows when you'll get that opportunity again. Don't save your "I love you"s for the special occasions-every occassion is special when you are with someone you love. And regardless of all the heartache he put Carrie through, we still have love for Mr. Big.
8 Don't Cater To Your Haters: Demand Honesty
See? We told you Samantha Jones was one blunt, ballsy woman. She is not afraid to call out her haters and demand some honesty. Because isn't it better if everything is just out in the open? Let's avoid all of the unnecessary drama and passive aggressive whispers behind peoples' backs. Let's just get it all out there, deal with it and move on with our lives. Samantha is a busy woman with a demanding career and busy social life. She doesn't have time to waste on a few hateful slut-shaming neighbors. Samantha is going to do her thing and if you have a problem with it, you better be able to say it to her face. Let's borrow this attitude from Samantha and cut back on the drama, gossip and frenemies in our own lives. Because if we want to be as fabulous as Samantha Jones, we need to cut out the drama and focus on the things that matter.
7 Stay Optimistic
Oh, Charlotte. She was always the naive one with perfectly prim hair and a strand of pearls. While Charlotte wasn't always the most relatable, she was eternally optimistic. Charlotte was a dreamer. And it's hard to be a dreamer when you're friends with perpetually pessimistic Miranda, overdramatic Carrie and harsh Samantha. These women do not believe in happily ever afters. But Charlotte does. And you know what? We could use a little bit more of Charlotte's hopeless romanticism in our lives. It doesn't hurt to be a dreamer and to live life with an idealistic outlook. With all the negativity happening in our daily lives, it would actually be a nice change to have some of Charlotte's cheery optimism. Maybe that guy we went on a date with three weeks ago is going to call!
6 Say Yes
Listen to your gal pals, Miranda and Samantha. It's time to start saying yes more! We say no way too often. But now is the time to throw caution to the wind, be adventurous and just say yes. Do you want to volunteer to take the lead on this new project at work? Yes, you do! Who cares if you don't know exactly how to do it? You'll learn along the way, ask for help and wing it. Do you want to go on a date with that guy who makes you laugh but happens to be a little shorter than you? Yes! What's the worst that could happen? Do you want to go away on a girls weekend that was spontaneously planned at the last minute? Yes! Do you want dessert after a delicious dinner? Yes! When in doubt, say "what would Miranda and Samantha do?"
5 Unless You Should Be Saying No...
Okay, so we just told you that you should be saying yes more and trying new things. But there are situations where it's perfectly fine to say no. No is a full sentence. And you shouldn't have to defend or justify your "no" to anyone. A creepy guy at the bar offers to buy you a drink that you don't want? Say no. You don't owe this stranger anything. Your boss drops off an extra assignment at 4:45pm on a Friday? No, sir. I won't be able to get that done for Monday morning. Your life outside of work is important and you shouldn't have to sacrifice it. Saying no can be empowering. It is not something to feel guilty about or ashamed over. You are allowed to say no to the things you don't want to do.
4 Implement A Strict Exercise Regiment
We're back with another tip from top fitness guru, Carrie Bradshaw. This time around Bradshaw is going to show us how to fit cardio into our daily activities. Say you don't have time to go to a yoga class or have the money for a gym membership. Never fear! There's still a way to stay on top of your fitness goals and lead a healthy lifestyle. If you shop as hard as Carrie, that becomes your cardio workout. Think about it: you're on your feet walking from store to store for hours on end. You might even have to run if there's a sale or you're cutting it close to closing time. You've got your weights aka your shopping bags. And you can even fit in some stretching as you stand in line waiting to pay or a few squats while you're trying to get your jeans on in the dressing room. Your body is going to thank you, but your wallet may think otherwise...
3 Own What You Want
Carrie Bradshaw may be a lot of things. Writer, fashionista, complainer and hopeless romantic. As much as I rolled my eyes at some of her "problems"-like when she farted in front of her boyfriend and spent a whole episode crying to her girlfriends about it-I have always admired Carrie's ability to know what she wants and says it out loud. Because it takes a lot of guts to do that. Not many people know what they want when it comes to love and even fewer have the guts to say it out loud. But Carrie is one of those few. She isn't going to settle. She will give up an all-expenses paid life in Paris with a successful artist in order to follow her passion and find true love. Good for you, Carrie. We all deserve to find our true happiness.
2 And Own Your Accomplishments
One of our favorite things about Miranda Hobbs is that she is a bad-ass career woman and at the same time, a wonderful mother and wife. She did it all! She was able to have both a successful career as a lawyer and have a family. Sure, Miranda had to make some sacrifices. It wasn't an easy road to be a success at work and at home. But Miranda always owned her accomplishments. She wasn't going to diminish herself and her career for any man. If a man was intimidated by her success, then he wasn't the right man for her. Good thing she found Steve, who supported her to be as successful as she could be at home and at work. But even before Steve, Miranda was an inspiration to women everywhere making their way in a male-dominated industry while balancing a life outside of work.
1 Your Soulmates Will Always Be There For You
Perhaps the most important life lesson Sex And The City taught us is the importance of friendship. Throughout all of the ups and downs, boyfriends and babies, new houses and new jobs of six seasons, these four women always stood by each other. They argued, sure, but they always made up. They supported one another, made time for their friendships, gave tough love and celebrated with each other. Above all of the beautiful fashions and dreamy men on this show, it was always the powerful friendship we most admired. Who wouldn't want to meet up with Carrie and the girls for brunch on Sunday morning? Or cocktails on a Friday night? Or a shopping trip anytime of day!
Because as Carrie once said, "They say nothing lasts forever…dreams change, trends come and go, but friendships never go out of style."