Celebrities, they're just like us, right? Although red carpets, designer clothes, and famous friends may separate Hollywood royalty from the rest of us, celebrities are still like the average person in many ways. Particularly, when it comes to parenting. Those with children go through the same ups and downs that come with parenthood like everyone else. Here are some of our favourite parenting quotes from the members of Tinsel Town – hopefully these will help you keep sane while trying to navigate your way through parenthood.
20 Jennifer Garner
Pregnancy and childbirth changes a woman’s body, so why does everyone act like it’s abnormal when a woman’s body is different post-birth? Even though she’s a famous actress known for her good looks, Jennifer Garner wasn’t afraid to share that even her body has changed since having three children. The actress is mom to three young children with ex-husband, Ben Affleck; daughters, Violet and Seraphina, and son, Samuel.
Just like Jennifer says, it’s totally okay that a woman’s body changes after becoming a mother. Honestly, the world would be a better place if we accepted that. Whether you’re a celebrity, or the average mom in the suburbs, everyone’s body changes in one way or another after pregnancy. We should embrace the changes because they are evidence of the beautiful child that was brought into the world!
19 Ewan McGregor
Ewan McGregor’s advice comes from experience – the Scottish actor has four daughters with his wife, Eve Mavrakis. The two are parents to biological children, Clara Mathilde (born in 1996), Esther Rose (born in 2001), and Anouk (born in 2011), and adopted daughter, Jamyan (born in 2001). Talk about a busy family!
McGregor reminds parents that, every once in a while, you should turn off technology and focus your attention solely on your kid(s). The best family memories are always made when everyone is involved and interacting. Turning off your cellphone and computer to play or talk with your kids shows them that you want to spend time with them – and they’ll appreciate this more than you think. Plus, it will ensure that you don’t miss out on (too many) important milestones in your kids’ lives.
18 Ray Romano
Ray Romano played everyone’s favourite T.V. dad when he starred on Everybody Loves Raymond from 1996-2005. In real life, the actor and comedian is a busy father to four children of his own. He and his wife, Anna Romano, have four children; sons, Mathew, Gregory and Joseph, and daughter, Alexandra. Given his large family, we’re sure Ray knows all the trials and tribulations of raising children. And, he reminds everyone that having children isn’t always easy. Referring to kids as “terrorists,” he acknowledges that raising kids isn’t always a walk in the park (sleep depravation is a very real thing). However, just because it’s not all sunshine and daisies doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have children, if that’s what you want! They may be terrorists, but Ray assures everyone that kids are really one of the greatest joys in life.
17 Kate Winslet
Kate Winslet has the right idea when it comes to parenting! In this quote, she discusses how she is raising her children to be whoever they want to be. Winslet, who is mother to daughter, Mia, and sons, Joe and Bear, wants her children to live the lives they want. Too many children feel like they don’t have the support or love of their parents, especially LGBTQ children, like Winslet notes. It’s important for parents to be there to support and encourage their child through whatever changes or life stages they are at. Parents should try to diversify and enrich their children’s lives in any way possible, and help them discover their own preferences, beliefs, and opinions. While their thoughts and feelings may diverge from your own, just remember how much your children need to feel your unconditional love.
16 Oprah Winfrey
Oprah Winfrey isn’t a parent herself, but it doesn’t make her advice less relevant! Oprah speaks the truth when she says biology isn’t what determines parentage – it’s about all the sacrifice and devotion one puts in to caring for a child.
You’re not a parent simply because your child has the same blood as you. You’re a parent when you take the time to pack their lunches, stay up with them when they’re sick, and sing silly songs with them at bedtime. You’re a parent when you assume all the responsibilities of a caregiver for the child, and are always putting their best interest first. Whether you have the same genetics as your child doesn’t matter – it shouldn’t matter to them, it shouldn’t matter to you, and it shouldn’t matter to anyone else as long as you’re being the best parent you can be!
15 Chris Martin
Chris Martin makes a big statement with this short quote, saying that dads should also share the same responsibilities as moms. The Coldplay frontman is father to daughter, Apple, and son, Moses, with his ex-wife, Gwyneth Paltrow. We imagine parenting duties are shared equally in his household, both before and after he and his wife “consciously uncoupled” – and that’s the way it should be!
Unfortunately, gender stereotypes still exist, both in regards to parenting and other aspects of life. Women are often assumed to naturally be the more nurturing gender, meaning they should carry the majority of the childrearing responsibilities. But, both women and men can make equally amazing parents and should share the same parenting duties. It’s also important for children to see household responsibilities being shared equally between mom and dad so they have a healthy idea about relationships and gender equality.
14 Michael Ian Black
One of the most difficult things about parenting is realizing that there are certain things you just don’t have control over. We’re sure author Michael Ian Black has had some experience with this while raising his children, Ruth and Elijah, with wife Martha Hagen. The older children get, the less control or influence parents have. You can only hope that the values and beliefs you have instilled in your children will help them navigate the perils of the real world. This is why communicating with your child from a young age is so imperative. But, most importantly, you need to trust that your child will be alright without you. Whether they’re starting primary school, going out with friends, or moving to university, all you can do is have faith in them and accept what you cannot control.
13 Angelina Jolie
Parenting is a full-time job, so it’s easy to lose yourself in the mess of diapers, bottles, and screaming babies. But, like Angelina Jolie reminds us, it’s important to take time for yourself and not forget that you have needs too. Angelina and her husband, Brad Pitt, are known for their large brood. The two have six children in total; biological children, Shiloh, Vivienne, and Knox, and adopted children, Pax, Maddox, and Zahara. With a family as large as this one, as well as Angelina and Brad’s hectic work schedules, we’re sure finding quality alone time isn’t easy in this household. However, like Angelina says, it’s important for you to find time to rest and recharge so you can be the best you can for your kids!
12 Whitney Houston
It’s true that children are the future of the world. So, it’s incredibly important that we teach the values and beliefs that will to help them become successful members of society. Whitney Houston had one daughter, Bobbi Kristina, with her ex-husband, Bobby Brown. But her advice is applicable to anyone who plays an influential role in a child’s life – whether you are a mother, father, grandparent, aunt, uncle, or even a mentor. Everyone has the ability to make an impact on a child’s life, both in negative and in positive ways. What we teach children influences how they act and what choose in the future. Just like Whitney said, children are the future leaders of the world, so we should teach them to act in a way we would want leaders to act.
11 Meryl Streep
Meryl must know a thing or two about dreaded teenage angst, as she is the mother to three daughters and one son. Meryl and her husband, Don Gummer, have had to go through four rounds of teenage trouble in raising their now-grown children Mammie, Henry, Louisa, and Grace. A child not wanting to talk to their parents was probably a recurring phenomenon in their household, to say the least.
It’s important for parents to remember that there will be times when your kids don’t want to talk to you. This just comes with the growing up, discovering who they are, and wanting their own space to do so. But, it’s important that they know you’re still there for them, regardless. Don’t be offended if your children don’t want to speak with you right now. Just keep on giving them your support, love, and encouragement – that’s all you really can do.
10 Kelly Clarkson
Kelly Clarkson is right – parenthood definitely changes your life! The songstress spent the majority of her 20's focusing on her successful music career, before eventually settling down with Brandon Blackstock in 2013. The couple has two young children, daughter, River, and son, Remington. Kelly is also a stepmother to her husband’s two older children from a previous relationship, Savannah and Seth. Becoming a wife, mother, and step-mother (plus having a bustling career) are a lot of changes for only three years, so we’re sure Kelly knows what a change parenthood is! There’s nothing wrong with acknowledging that your life is a lot different now than it was before you had kids. And it’s also okay to miss something from your previous lifestyle, like being able to go out without needing a babysitter and not having to wake up at 3 AM to a crying baby. But, anyone with kids knows that while it’s hard work, it’s one of the best jobs you can have. Having kids is a big change, but it’s definitely a change for the good!
9 Marlene Dietrich
Even in the ‘20s, parents knew how difficult it is to balance a busy career while raising children. And, if this quote is any hint, that may be the reason Marlene Dietrich only had one child. The famous actress, who shared daughter, Maria, with her ex-husband, Rudolf Sieber, was always adamant about how managing a growing career with the demands of motherhood is a struggle.
Juggling work while childrearing is no joke. Anyone with a child knows that sacrifices have to be made in the name of good parenting. That means that you’ll probably be giving up everything from sleep, time, and privacy in order to put your child’s best interests first. Sometimes, that may also mean making difficult decisions, such as cutting back on your work hours, or turning down a promotion. But, it’s all worth it when you see all that your children are and will accomplish.
8 Guy Fieri
Of course Guy Fieri would find a creative way to combine parenthood with cooking! Fieri and his wife, Lori, have two children, Ryder and Hunter. Finding ways to engage the whole family is always difficult, but it seems like his family has it all figured out. The successful restaurateur and television personality is famous for his passion for food, and he’s a great example of sharing your passion with your children. Learning something new and seeing how much you enjoy doing it will definitely leave your children with some lasting memories. Plus, just like Fieri says, this is a great opportunity to teach your children life skills that will stay with them long into the future. Whether it’s cooking, sewing, swimming, or anything like that, it’s both an educational opportunity, and a chance to spend some quality time bonding as a family.
With all of the awards and accomplishments Beyoncé has achieved in her short life, you’d think her ego would be out of this world. This quote is a refreshing reminder of exactly what parenthood can do to you; it changes all of your priorities and transforms your outlook on life. What used to seem important or prestigious has taken a backseat, and now your child is front and center in your life. Even Beyoncé, who is mother to Blue Ivy, with husband Jay-Z, and all of her fame don’t stand a chance against the power of parenthood. As Beyoncé said, parenthood transforms your purpose in life – suddenly everything is about your little one, and not you. All the money, fame, and power in the world can’t compare to the power becoming a parent has on you. Never forget what an important role your child play’s in your life and vice versa.
6 John Lennon
John Lennon’s quote seems slightly cynical, but what he’s trying to express is the enormous responsibility that is taking care of and raising a child. John fathered two sons in his lifetime, Sean and Julian. He was always known for being an eccentric, creative thinker, and that innovative way of thinking made him one of the most well regarded and loved musicians of the 20th century.
John is correct when he says parenthood puts an unthinkable amount of pressure on a person. It’s the parent’s responsibility to raise their children to be the best they can be. And often, bad parenting may be partially to blame for a child’s poor actions, or, as John said, “the reason why kids are crazy.” Parents are the most important, influential people in their child’s life, so it’s important you make sure you’re ready for the responsibility parenthood brings.
5 Viola Davis
If there’s one thing any parent needs, it's patience – patience with their children, patience with the rest of the world, and patience with themselves! All parents, no matter how on top of things they are, make mistakes. Viola Davis – who is mother to daughter, Genesis, with her husband, Julius – reminds parents that, when that happens, you just need to forgive yourself and move on.
No human is perfect, so why would we expect parents to be perfect? Don’t hit your head against your wall if you make a mistake, just take a deep breath, calm down, and let it go. It doesn’t help anyone (especially not your child) if you’re upset with yourself, so it’s always best to forgive yourself and move on when you’ve made a mistake. But, don’t forget to learn from your mistakes! Parenthood is a learning curve every step of your way and there’s no better way than to learn from your own mistakes.
4 Denise Richards
Confidence is something you should start instilling in your child as soon as possible! And that involves maintaining a positive outlook about your own body in front of your children. Denise Richards, who is mother to daughters, Sam, Lola, and Eloise, is famous for her good looks. As a former fashion model and actress, we’re sure there’s always been tons of pressure on her to live up to Hollywood’s ridiculous beauty standards. But that’s not stopping the star from instilling body positivity in her own girls. Just like Denise says, it’s not a good idea to complain about your own body insecurities incessantly in front of your children. Children are impressionable, and you don’t want them negatively reflecting on their own bodies, or growing up having unrealistic standards in their heads. After all, everyone is beautiful in their own way.
3 Thomas Friedman
It can be difficult to help develop your child’s work ethic. It seems like kids nowadays are kind of lazy, to be honest. All they want to do is play video games, text, or put some Netflix on – and it’s up to parents to control this! Author and journalist, Thomas Friedman, realizes just this. Thomas, who is father to children, Natalie, and Orly, with his wife, Ann, explains the difference between guilt tripping your children successfully and not so successfully.
You have to give children a good reason to get them to do things. There’s nothing wrong with inspiring a little competitive flare in them. While it’s important for children to have downtime and to be able to do what they want, it’s also important for them to stay active and be responsible. Helping them develop their work ethic from a young age will ensure that they have it for the rest of their life.
2 Ricky Martin
Undeniably, the most amazing part of being a parent is the love you feel towards your child. It’s the type of love you never experience before having a child; the type of love that would make you go to the ends of the earth to provide for them. Ricky Martin summarized this experience when he called it what it was, “unconditional love.” The singer and actor knows a thing or two about this type of love, as he is father to young twin boys, Matteo and Valentino. And, just like he says, this love only grows and grows with each day – how amazing is that? So, any time you feel frustrated or overwhelmed with being a parent, remember how incredible this type of love is, and how lucky you are to experience it.
1 Vera Farmiga
I think we can all agree that one of the best things about being a kid is the ability to get down and dirty without a care in the world. But, when you become a parent, it’s actually one of the worst things that can happen. No parents like to deal with the mess a dirty child comes with! But, it’s important to let children have their freedom and (sometimes) allow them to get down and dirty in nature. Actress, Vera Farmiga, who shares children, Gytta and Flynn, with her husband Renn Hawkey, knows the importance of getting dirty with her kids in nature. Like she says, no technology compares to the fun memories your family can make with some dirt and twigs. Take the family to the park and try it for yourself!
Celebrity parents do have some good advice when it comes to raising your little ones! Everyone parents differently, but all that matters is that you have your child's best interest at heart. You are the most important person in your child's life – never forget that!