When two people are messaging each other, it's really hard to pin down exactly what kind of tone the other person intends. He might send a message that can be read as a joke or could be read as something really weird, making conversations difficult. At best, a conversation can be kept light-hearted and general, but at worst some friendships could end over a silly misunderstanding. The thing about language is that tone really does make all the difference. Think about how different the meaning can be when a word or two is emphasized in a sentence. Basically, when people are messaging each other over social media, emails or simply texting back and forth, it's hard to tell what sort of feel the conversation has.
Not knowing how a conversation is going can be particularly difficult if a woman is crushing hard on a guy. They're messaging each other and she thinks he's flirting but she can't be certain since she's not getting his body language or tone along with his texts. How can a girl tell if she's getting her feelings across and if he's trying to hint that he feels the same way? Here are 20 signs he's got "textual chemistry" with her.
20 His Messages Include Emojis
One of the best ways to tell if he's got some "textual chemistry" going on is to pay attention to his use of emojis. If he's throwing in hearts, happy faces and faces with hearts for eyes, he's definitely flirting! He wants to make his intentions known without outright saying, "I'm interested in a relationship."
It's even better if he's sending different emojis to express how he's feeling, what's going on in his life and to respond to what she's telling him. Of course, the lack of emojis doesn't mean he's not interested, so be sure to keep an eye out for other signals!
19 He Responds Quickly
Any guy interested in a girl is going to respond as quickly as possible to her messages. Gone are the days of "waiting three days to call back." With multiple ways to send and receive text messages, such as via smart watches and tablets, it's impossible for a guy to go too long without noticing her messages.
If he's thinking of something more than a basic friendship, he's going to respond as soon as he reads the message. The only acceptable excuses to this rule are when he's busy at school, work or other events, which he's bound to make her aware of anyway.
18 He Sends A Text Right After Parting From Her
Some people think a guy who sends a text message right after hanging out is just super friendly or that he just had a great time and isn't quite ready to call it a night, but the truth of the matter is he's crushing!
He's trying not to look too desperate so instead of a phone call, he's just gonna send her a quick text that she can read whenever she gets a chance. He's hoping she'll respond right away, even if it doesn't develop into a full conversation, just so he can end the day on a high note.
17 He Sends Lots Of Pictures
No, not those kinds of pictures! What he's actually sending are his bedhead morning selfies, pics of him at really cool places (or really lame places), his pets and more. Sending media messages takes a tiny bit more time than just sending a simple text, which means he's putting in some effort here.
He's also making sure he looks good for her in each shot, which everyone knows can take a little time when the lighting is off or the angle isn't just right! He's just trying to get her to notice him because there's some serious textual chemistry going on!
16 He Gives Straight Answers
It's so easy to be ambiguous when texting someone! It's also easy to "forget" to reply, so if he's responding to all her messages and is giving straight answers to her questions, he's either extremely respectful or he's going out of his way to make sure she understands exactly what he means.
Sometimes the best relationships stem from two people who are open, honest and aren't afraid to be straight up right from the start. He wants her to trust him so he's not going to hide any part of his life from her. Hint: if he's open and honest over text, which he knows she can show anyone, he's putting all his trust in her.
15 He's Open About Personal Issues
Speaking of trust, he knows the dangers of putting himself out there via text. For all he knows, she can take a screenshot and spread the word about his fear of ladybugs or impulse to binge-watch Hallmark movies. By opening up to her via text, not only is he showing how much he trusts her with his personal life but he's also revealing who he really is.
Being transparent is hard to do, especially if he's not in a relationship with her yet, but he knows he's gotta open up if he expects her to one day do the same.
14 He Gushes About His Hobbies
Of all the things two people can talk about via text message, a guy gushing about his hobbies can probably be ranked among the top five signs there's some serious textual chemistry.
So he loves collecting miniatures of his favorite TV shows, okay, great. It's tough for him to talk about them for very long before most people's eyes glaze over, but because she's responding to his texts and encouraging him to go on, he feels like he can nerd out without being judged. This, of course, will eventually lead him to ask about her hobbies and the next thing they know, they've been texting all day long!
13 He Talks About His Future With Her
It's not that big a deal when a guy is texting a girl and he mentions doing things like watching a movie next week or hanging out on Thursday. What is a big deal is when he's texting her about a concert they should go to next year, or what they'll be doing a few summers from now.
He's thinking in terms of the big picture and his ideas for future events are starting to sound more and more personal, like something a couple would do together. He's even joking about living together and bringing her around to the next family reunion!
12 He Sends Long Messages
Everyone's received the terrible "k" message. If she's putting in effort to write out a thoughtful, well-typed message to him and he actually responds with a paragraph or two, there's some textual chemistry.
By responding with more than just a single word, he's showing her that he's really paying attention to what she's saying and he's got thoughts about it. Sometimes his responses might slow down a bit, but if he's usually replying with full sentences and comments to keep the conversation rolling, he's trying to prolong the conversation.
If there's ever any doubt, all she has to do is send a semi-boring message to see how he responds. If he gives more than just a few words and tries to pick up the conversation, he's definitely into her.
11 There's Never 'Nothing To Talk About'
It doesn't matter if it's the crack of dawn or deep into the night, he's always got something to say and she's always got something to say back. When the conversation can keep going into eternity, or, you know, until one of them has to get some sleep or go to work, it's a great sign of textual chemistry!
It basically means they entertain each other and can feed off each other's energy to talk about anything, from serious topics to non-consequential blabber about Skittles flavors. Whatever they talk about, it's obvious both parties just enjoy each other's company.
10 He Lets Her Know Where He Is
If she's randomly asking what he's up to, he can easily reply with a simple, "Out running errands" or a "Sorry, busy right now. ttyl." If he's giving more specific answers, like, "Hey! I'm at [insert random store here]. Just picking up a few essentials. I ran out of toothpaste the other day and figured I'd just grab all the stuff I need. What's up?" then he's got something more than just a simple friendship in mind.
He's willing to let her know exactly where he is whenever she asks because he's using it as an excuse to expand the conversation and to keep her talking to him.
9 He Flirts
While it might seem obvious to others, sometimes people can't tell when they're being flirted with. If there's some serious textual chemistry going on, he's going to start sending more and more flirty messages. He's testing to see whether she's going to flirt back, and if she does, he's also wanting to see how far he can go before the moment to ask her out is just right.
This can sound like a silly game to some, but for some guys it's just easier to work their way up by getting a good feel for how she's reacting to their messages.
8 He Specifies When He's Joking Around
Some guys joke around smoothly while others can be a bit more sarcastic. There is also the kind of guy who likes to tease a little when he's playing with her, but because text messages can be misconstrued so easily, he's going to make sure she understands he's just messing with her.
He doesn't actually think any of the teasing comments he made are true, he just wants to give her a hard time because it's funny to him when she squirms a little. Obviously, he'll also back off and apologize if she does take one of his jokes the wrong way because he honestly didn't mean any harm.
7 He's Dropping Hints He's Crushing On Her
One might assume a guy who is crushing on a girl will be straight up about it, but sometimes these things can take a little while to build up momentum. When there's chemistry between two people, sometimes the guy's more prone to drop hints than he is to just put himself out there.
Instead of outright admitting his feelings, he'll casually mention local events to see if she's interested in going or he'll mention how he's interested in someone who has similarities to her. If she doesn't catch on right away, he'll slowly become more and more obvious as time goes by.
6 He Sends Heart Emojis - But Not Too Many
A guy who takes the time to send emojis is obviously interested in keeping her entertained during the conversation. He doesn't just want to try to dazzle her with his words, he also wants to give her something visual to look at! Okay, that might not be true. The real reason he's sending emojis, especially those with hearts on them, is to signal how he really feels about her.
It's a subtle hint that he doesn't want to overuse so he's going to keep them few and far between. Yes, he wants her to know he's interested, but no, he's not ready to be completely honest yet.
5 His Gif Game Is On Point
Similar to using emojis, a guy has to stop what he's doing to search for the perfect gif to express what he's saying. Some guys are even interested in a "gif war" with her. The messages are clear to each other without using any words at all! This is a fun way to communicate and he's making sure he's got the time to really have some fun with her.
If his gif game is on point, it's because he's putting in the extra effort. If she thinks he's like this with all his conversations, she'd be wrong. Gifs are reserved for his best friends and the one special girl he's texting.
4 He's Got Cheesy Jokes
Some guys are pretty good at sending genuinely funny jokes via text message, but then again there are those guys who only excel at the "dad jokes." He's great at making her roll her eyes, but the reality is she's sort of really digging his whole cheesy jokester persona.
When he gives her these lame jokes, she's able to be more herself, which can sometimes mean she's got her own set of bad jokes to tell. If she isn't equipped with dad jokes, then his will inspire her to make up a few of her own! While the exchange of these kinds of messages may seem kind of silly, the reality is they're perfect to help two people bond.
3 He Sends More Than Just 'LOL'
Speaking of jokes, when she offers a funny story or a great joke of her own, he's gotta respond with something more than just "lol." Speaking of which, he's never actually laughing out loud, but it is the most polite way to respond to someone's attempted joke. When there's real textual chemistry, he's going to reply with a good old fashioned "rofl," a gif to show he's laughing or maybe even a comment on how she just made milk come out of his nose!
The point is no matter how bad her jokes are, he'll offer a real response that she can build on to create a longer chat thread.
2 He Texts Late Into The Night
No one would ever waste their time or their precious sleep by texting someone late into the night unless there was some major chemistry. If he's texting her all hours and is happy to continue a conversation as long as she's willing to participate, there's definitely something real happening. Bonus points for conversations that actually matter.
He's asking and answering the real questions like, "What's your dream?," "What are your goals?" and "What makes you happy?" He wants to know everything and anything about her so the messages just keep coming! Eventually he's going to start calling so they can chat for hours at a time, but until then, just know there's real chemistry here.
1 He Straight Up Admits His Feelings
When two people are really hitting it off, sometimes it can be difficult for one person to outright admit how they feel to the other. Then again, there are those who throw caution to the wind and just spit it out!
If he's texting her and suddenly he starts explaining how he feels about her, there's no way she can confuse it with anything but the truth. He's into her and he can't hold back anymore! While some women may be upset he chose to tell her via text message instead of during face-to-face conversation, most would just appreciate his honesty and would probably advance from the texting stage to the phone calls and meeting up stages!