If someone does not have children yet and has just found out they are pregnant then there is nothing that scares them more than childbirth. Even if a woman has done it before, they are still scared, because every birth is different and they kind of know what is coming.
Childbirth is, undoubtedly, one of the hardest things that a woman will ever go through. There is also no way to be fully prepared because anything can happen. One would think that if they spoke to a delivery nurse, they could learn all the ins and outs of the task.
However, that is almost never the case. Nurses do not want to disclose any information unless they have to. They do not want to instill fear if there is no reason to. They will explain it if it happens and they need to, but never before.
20 They’re Going To Bring A Lot Of People In For A Look
Women lose their shame very quickly when they are in labor and that is because they are put on display.
There will be a lot of people coming in and having a look at your most private area. If you are in labor long enough, then you could be there for a few shift changes so you will have multiple different nurses. Don't worry though, they have seen a lot.
19 The Baby’s Heart Rate May Drop
It is likely that your baby's heart rate will be monitored throughout your entire delivery and that is so they can monitor the well-being of the baby. It can be normal for the heart rate to fall during a contraction, even though it can be worrisome.
Don't worry if the nurses are not in the room when this happens, they are accessing your monitors from their desk and they will know if there is a problem that needs to be seen.
18 Too Late To Eat Now
If you are a first-time mom, then chances are when your contractions start, you have some time before you have to head to the hospital. This would be your chance to grab a last meal.
They are not going to let you eat when you are admitted into the delivery suite. There is the chance of a C-section or other interventions that would be potentially dangerous if you have eaten.
17 You May Push For A Long Time
Contractions may be a pain (literally), but pushing can be equally as hard, if not worse. Pushing is the last stretch of delivery before you meet your baby. It can last a long time.
A first-time mom can spend a lot of time pushing, it can even be a few hours. If that sounds exhausting, then that is because it really is.
16 Oh Yea, That Epidural May Not Work!
There are some people out there who are able to have a baby will little to no pain relief, and they deserve a medal or something. A lot of women still rely on pain meds like an epidural to get through it.
The nurse likely won't tell you that there is a chance that the epidural won't work, or that it will only work on one side of your body.
15 You Will Probably Go To The Bathroom
This is the number one fear for a lot of women who are about to give birth, and that is going to the bathroom on the delivery bed. The truth is, you probably will and that is because you use the same muscles to push a baby out.
The good news is, the nurses don't care and they likely won't announce it. They will clean everything up and move on.
14 You’re Going To Puff Out
It is quite common that a woman may receive an IV during labor, and that is to administer fluids to make sure they don't get dehydrated.
What the nurses may not tell you is that this may make you puff out all over. The excess water and fluid may make you swell up. This will go away shortly after delivery when the IV is removed.
13 You Also Will Itch
You also may itch all over. This is a common side effect from an epidural, and it is quite normal for you to feel itchy when you have the epidural administered.
The nurses won't likely warn you of this beforehand, and may only tell you the truth when you ask why you can't stop itching. There isn't really anything they can do for relief other than delivering your baby.
12 C-Section Secrets
A lot of women end up having to have a C-section to get the baby out safely. This comes with its own set of risks and instructions.
If you have a C-section, you are likely going to get a catheter put in. This catheter will also stay in for quite a while. That is because it may take a while before you are able to get up on your feet and walk to the bathroom on your own.
11 Breastfeeding May Hurt
This one may not technically happen until after delivery, but it can still come as a bit of a shock to women who want to breastfeed. Breastfeeding can start pretty soon after delivery and the nurses will be there to help with that.
It can hurt at the beginning, while you and the baby are learning how to latch and feed efficiently. This will likely pass as you and your baby get better at it.
10 Nothing Will Ever Be The Same
No nurse is going to tell you that nothing will ever be the same again. Having a baby changes your entire being. Both mentally and physically. Our lady parts are amazing and they are able to shrink back to the way they were before labor.
However, they will always be just a tiny bit stretched. The muscles are not as tight anymore, and this will help with any other future childbirths you may go through.
9 It Will Be A Tsunami
Just a heads up, when you are packing your hospital bag, you are going to want to make sure you pack a lot of feminine hygiene pads. Some hospitals don't provide them, and you will need them.
There is going to be a lot of mess after the baby is born, and it is going to last a while. Don't worry, you will be monitored to make sure that it doesn't become a danger.
8 You Have To Push When The Pushing Is Done
Many women blindly believe that after they push the baby out, that their hard work is done. This is not always true. Pushing the baby out is only the end of the 2nd stage of labor, there is still one more.
That is expelling the placenta and everything else. A lot of the times, this comes out naturally shortly after the baby is born with minimal help from mom. Sometimes, mom needs to give some more pushes to get it out.
7 Things Can Go Wrong
Nurses know that childbirth can be a scary time for a mom-to-be and it doesn't matter which pregnancy they are on. They don't want to do anything that could further frighten a mom in labor.
That is why they won't tell her that things can go wrong in the delivery room. That there may be times when it gets scary, but they won't tell you unless they have to.
6 It Is Normal To Tear …
This one is very true and likely for a first-time mom. It is very likely that you will tear when you push out your baby. That is because everything is still tight, and the baby may need a little extra space to come out.
This is very common, and it seems to happen less often the more babies a woman has.
5 … Or Be Cut!
If a woman doesn't tear on her own, there is a chance that the doctor may have to do a small cut to give the baby a little extra room. This is called an episiotomy. Some say this is better than tearing as it is easier to stitch up.
The doctor will provide stitches after, whether you tore or were cut, and it will heal on its own.
4 Pushing Can Take Hours
We mentioned before that pushing a baby out can take hours, and this is true. There are women out there who have pushed for 3-4 hours before they get to meet their baby.
The nurses won't tell you that it can be dangerous to push for too long, as the baby could go into distress. This means that they may have to step in and use forceps or even wheel you in for an emergency C-section.
3 There May Not Be Time For An Epidural
As a woman has more and more babies, their time spent in labor usually gets shorter each time. That is because the body knows what to do and the muscles are already stretched out a bit.
This means that there can be times when labor happens so quickly that there may not be time for an epidural. This means that a woman may end up having to have an all-natural birth.
2 Your Support Team May Be Kicked Out
A lot of people choose to have someone in the room with them when they deliver their baby. It is usually their spouse and/or their mother to help get them through.
The nurses want this to happen, and they want you to have the people you need in there with you. There may be times when they need to leave. If a medical emergency happens, they will be asked to leave the room until everything is settled.
1 That Childbirth Was The Easy Part
Here is something that no nurse is going to tell you, but it is important for all moms to know, especially first-time moms. That is that childbirth was the easy part.
Childbirth is hard and seemingly impossible at times, but it really gets harder after that. Once you leave the hospital, you are responsible for this tiny baby and you will have to do this on a lot of sleepless nights.
References: whattoexpect.com, huffingtonpost.ca