Tamar Braxton might be a star, but her life is no fairy tale. The singer and media personality, best known for her run on the reality show Braxton Family Values, has been struggling with severe symptoms of depression. In July, Tamar even attempted suicide in the Ritz Carlton, where she was discovered with just enough time to save her life. Now, the reality star is in therapy and working hard on making a full recovery.

Some television viewers have expressed surprise at Tamar’s willingness to speak openly about her issues, but longtime fans know that this is typical of the star’s willingness to speak frankly about her life. The oldest example of this tendency is Tamar’s divorce from her first husband. And the story is an intense one. Let’s take a look:

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A Marriage That Was Never Right

Before Tamar Braxton ever graced our televisions as a reality TV sensation, the singer had a complicated marriage to a man named Darrell Allamby. The two tied the knot in 2001, after working together on Braxton’s debut song Money Can’t Buy You Love. However, by 2003 the pair had already called it quits. And if Tamar has had anything to say about the relationship, it’s that the couple was very incompatible.

In 2015, Tamar opened up with her fans about the bad marriage in an interview with Daily Mail. “God really saved me from myself,” she said, “I was with the wrong person, and when I was with the wrong person, it made me feel bad about who I was.”

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Allegations Of Abuse

One of the biggest problems in the relationship was reportedly the way that Darrell treated Tamar in the moments she was feeling down. According to her interview with Daily Mail, the singer often found herself at the receiving end of some horrendous. “He used to beat me down, mentally and physically,” the singer confessed,” It was just a really hard time for me.”

Tamar did not end her statement there. She went on to talk about some of the reasons why it was so hard to leave her reportedly abusive relationship at the time it was happening. One major challenge to initiating a breakup, she revealed, was still being in a process for self-discovery. “The only reason he got away with it then is because I did not know who I was. And I could not make the right decisions for myself, because I didn’t know where to go.” How terrifying that must have been!

Luckily, Tamar was eventually able to leave the relationship and file for divorce. Darrell does not seem to be in her life any longer, which means she can probably do a better job of focusing on the things that matter most: her family and her mental health. We wish Tamar all the best as she pursues these things!

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