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When the idea of a stepmother pops into mind, the first thing that most think of is an evil version of the parental figure. A woman who is either trying to take over the role of the children's biological mother or does not treat her stepchildren the same as her own children. These were roles that the public seemed to want to cast Jennifer Lopez in.

Despite the relationship she has with her own children or how close she was with Aaron Rodiguez's girls, the diva behavior that the Marry Me star is claimed to have with restaurant staff, assistants, or those outside of her inner circle is how some believed she would treat Violet, Seraphina, and Samuel Garner-Affleck, casting Lopez in the role of the wicked step-mother.

Jennifer Lopez Doesn't Have The Best Reputation

Throughout Lopez's career, there have been allegations that the Shotgun Wedding star will not talk to flight attendants, will not go on stage if she does not have certain items in her dressing room before a concert, or will not stay at a hotel without lists of requested items fulfilled, all things that Lopez has tried to debunk or claim have been said about her because of the sexism in the entertainment industry.

Once these claims are made, however, it is hard to shake them and harder still to look like a nurturing and caring mother, stepmother, and role model for her children or stepchildren. And because of this, Lopez consistently finds herself facing an uphill battle when it comes to her relationship with her husband, Ben Affleck's children in the press, even though there are no reports that show there is tension on the home front.

Because of this, critics are constantly asking the question, is Jennifer Lopez a good stepmom, always citing her reputation for being "rude."

This Is Not Jennifer Lopez's First Rodeo As A Stepmom

Becoming a stepmother is not an easy role to step into. It takes support from the children's biological mother, the desire to build up a relationship with the kids over time, and the kids being receptive to having a new parent in their lives, a role that the Hustlers star has not only tackled since marrying Affleck but two times before as well.

Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony backstage with their daughter in Puerto Rico
via YouTube, DocBusters channel

Lopez is not one to shy away from love. As such, she has been married four times and engaged twice before calling those engagements off. During those relationships, Lopez became a stepmom or was a stepmom figure twice.

Therefore, she knows a thing or two about how to cultivate a relationship with her significant other's kids to make for a successful blended family.

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Be it with Antony's four children or Rodriguez's two, the Second Act star made sure the kids had a happy home life. As such, while it may come as a surprise to critics who believe Lopez's stage demeanor or reportedly bad behavior toward others is how she treats everyone, there have never been any complaints from Lopez's stepchildren that she has been rude or uncaring toward them.

Instead, there is only a natural bond that the Lila & Eve star has always seemed to have with her stepchildren.

That bond has helped Affleck's and Lopez's children "get along effortlessly, which has been seen time and again when Lopez is photographed solo having a fantastic time with not only her children but her stepchildren as well.

Jennifer Lopez Called Blending Families An "Emotional Transition"

Just because the transition of blending families appeared to be seamless, it does not mean that there was not more going on behind the scenes.

But because neither Lopez nor Affleck cared to share that personal part of their lives, the public was not privy to the transitions, both physical and emotional, that occurred to make family life comfortable for the five kids who were involved when Lopez and Affleck decided to rekindle their relationship.

Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez at the Venice film festival
via: Instar

"We moved in together, the kids moved in together, so it’s been like a really kind of emotional transition but at the same time, like, all your dreams coming true,” Lopez explained. "It’s just been a phenomenal year. Like, my best year, I think, since my kids were born."

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As a result of the hard work that Lopez was willing to put in to make sure that Affleck's children, whom he shares with Jennifer Garner, felt love and a connection with their stepmother, a healthy relationship blossomed. And it is because of this work that a genuinely happy family unit was able to be formed.

Is Jennifer Lopez A Good Stepmom?

Despite all the facts that point to Lopez being a good stepmom, critics still have a hard time accepting this fact. Much of this appears to stem from putting themselves in the position of her children as well as previously reported antics, truthful or not.

"I think she’s nice until she isn’t," one Reddit user stated. "She seems to turn off her affections and loyalty pretty quickly. One minute it’s 'On' and the next minute it’s gone…."

Jennifer Lopez in  a still from The Wedding Planner
via YouTube, Sony Pictures Entertainment channel

Another user commented, "I think it’s problematic that this is the second family she’s moved her kids in within a few years. Like imagine having to live with a completely new family for the third time? That’s gotta be rough."

"I don't see her as an involved stepmom," a third Reddit user said. "I'm sure she treats her kids and Ben and Jen's kids as two separate entities."

But with all of these claims, there are not any facts to back them up. In fact, there are more solid facts that show there is nothing but respect and love between Affleck's children and Lopez, not to mention the solid co-parenting relationship that exists between Lopez, Affleck, and Garner.

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However, it appears that once labeled a diva, always a diva, regardless of why the claims are made. After all, even if Lopez is a "diva" or "rude" in her professional life, that does not mean it translates to home life.

Because of this, perhaps it is time for the public to step back a moment and see just how the family dynamic plays out over the upcoming years before harmful labels are dolled out without abandon.