Given Jennette McCurdy's recent shocking allegations that she was physically and mentally abused by her mother, it's no surprise that she hasn't had much luck in the love department. When someone goes through something as horrific as what Jennette detailed in her upcoming memoir and in her one-woman show, "I'm Glad My Mom Died", they tend to have a number of traumas that prevent them from trusting, loving, or even feeling comfortable in their own bodies. According to her interview with People, Jennette says she simply didn't know her identity when her mom was around as she brainwashed her. Fortunately, nowadays, Jennette claims to have come into her own. And this has allowed her to fully love herself and open up the door to more rewarding romances should they arise.
The former iCarly star, who hated her experience filming the Nickelodeon show and therefore didn't return for the recent revamp, hasn't had a love life that's been on display like other celebrities. This has made many fans wonder about what's really going. After all, it appears as though she's been single for more than a decade. It could be true. It could be that Jennette is exceptionally good at keeping her romantic life private. Here's what we know for sure...
Jennette's Rumored Boyfriends And Her Controversial 'First' Relationship
Like any Hollywood starlet, Jennette was rumored to have been with a number of young men during the earliest part of her career. Among them was Bill Engvall Show star, Graham Patrick Martin. The List claims she was dating Graham in 2004 throughout 2008, but there's no evidence to suggest that this is true. It's simply a rumor. As was her alleged romantic encounter with Max Ehrich, the man who was recently involved with Demi Lovato and stirred up all that drama. Again, it's unlikely that Jennette was actually involved with him but it's an interesting thought given Max's propensity for women who are more successful than he is.
What we do know is that Jennette's first confirmed relationship was when she was 18-years-old on the set of iCarly. Even many Hollywood romances happen on the set, the young woman who played Sam didn't go for one of her co-stars. She went for a member of the writing staff... one who happened to be subretinally older than her.
It was 2013 when Jennette first started dating Paul Glaser from the iCarly set. And this was during the time when her mother was dying of cancer and the end was in sight. According to J-14, Jennette claimed she put too much of herself into her relationship with Paul due to the intense and conflicting feelings she was going through when her allegedly abusive mother was leaving her.
"I put my feelings of love toward someone other than my mother, who had been the receiver of all that love up until that point. I knew she was leaving, and I was panicking, and I think there was just a part of myself that was ready to switch these feelings of love toward a new person," Jennette explained in an interview from 2015 with Vulture. "I needed to go through that loss on my own. I felt that I would put too much of myself into another person, and become very attached. I thought, 'Oh, if I share this loss with someone, and I share this part of myself with someone, and this reality with someone, then they become my reality.' And that thought scared me."
Jennette's Relationship With Renee Drummond
Of course, due to what the relationship was based on, things with Paul ended right before Jennette's mother passed away. And shortly after Jennette lost her mother, she became involved with another man, the hunky NBA star Renee Drummond. While we don't know precisely who initiated it, we do know that the pair met on social media so it appears as though somebody slid into the other's DMs.
While Jennette and Renee posted a few PDA-filled photos of themselves on social media during their romance, things soon ended... and with quite a bit of drama.
After Jennette went of Peter Holme's "You Made It Weird" podcast in 2014 and claimed that Renee was a bad kisser, her private photos leaked online. Jennette's response on Twitter following the leak revealed a lot about her relationship with Renee as well as why she has seemingly tried to keep her romances away from the public eye.
"To anyone disappointed: I sent those pics to one person. You can connect the dots. Shocked someone would stoop so low. I just speak with candor," Jennette wrote on Twitter in 2014.
In response, Renee took to Twitter and wrote, "For all the speculations about leaking anything, I have nothing to do with it. I'm focused on basketball. Thank you."
Jennette's Last Known Relationship
It's pretty crazy to think that Jennette's last reported relationship ended in 2016. This was with her co-star on Netflix's Between. According to J-14, Jennette started up another brief relationship with Jesse Cerere while the two were filming the mystery show together. Much like her previous two relationships, Jennette did share a few photos of the two of them getting extremely cozy on her social media accounts. But this relationship was also extremely short-lived. We don't know what precisely went wrong but it seemingly has to do with the fact that Jennette was still trying to figure out who she needed to be.
Jennette's terrible and allegedly brutal relationship with her mother certainly played a massive impact in her ability to figure out who she was and what she wanted.
"I think from an early age I learned to be whatever person people needed me to be," Jennette said in an interview.
While she may not have had any reported relationships since 2016, it may be a good thing as Jennette has finally taken the opportunity to really delve into the person that she wants to be. And that's one of the most important things before entering into a mature, dedicated, and fulfilling relationship with another.