Moms across the globe are constantly trying to find enough time in the day to "do it all." If you find it impossible to balance your friendships, your one-on-one time with your kids, staying healthy, and even your relationships with your partner, chances are you're not alone. If you're a working mom and have the added stress of keeping your employer happy or running a business, it's no surprise that you might be feeling overwhelmed. And sure, there’s no question that us moms want to be able to do it all – The real question is, how exactly can we do it all?
Luckily, your struggle will be alleviated somewhat with these simple tips to help you do just that. By implementing a few simple behavioural changes, and organizational and scheduling tips, you can make your life a whole lot easier while still accomplishing all that you want to accomplish. What's better is by doing these things, you'll even find the time to relax and decompress – something that is essential for us SuperMoms.
Take some time out of your busy day to read the tips below to find out how to be an even better (and less stressed out) SuperMom than you already are. Trust us, you won't regret it when you're sleeping peacefully in a few weeks.
6 Let Go of Some Responsibility
Ever find yourself saying, “yes” to other people way more often than people say yes to you? Well, that’s a bad habit. While we all want to help others in every which way, it’s important that we help ourselves too. Think about what's truly important to you and say “yes” to those things. If it’s important to you to spend time with your budding little leaguer, then of course, say “yes” to bringing half-time snacks for the team. If it’s not so important to you to volunteer on the school board (when let’s face it, that can be a full-time job in itself), let someone else take the job. At first, it may be hard to say “no” to the offer, but you’ll be happy you did while you’re catching up with an old friend at lunch instead of planning fundraisers. If it makes you feel better, you can always make donations.
If you’re a stay-at-home mom, it’s easy to fall into the trap of offering to do everything while your partner works – but that doesn’t mean it’s right. Ask your partner if they're alright with picking the kids up after work while you prepare dinner or work out. Get out of the mindset that asking for help is a bad thing. Chances are, your partner would be glad to lend a hand.
If you’re a working mom, it may not be the best time to take on a new project, especially if you’re swamped as is. If appropriate, talk to your employer and let them know you’d rather focus whole-heartedly on the work you have instead of spreading yourself too thin. This will not only help reduce your stress levels, but it may be prevent you from making thoughtless mistakes.
5 Get in That Personal Time and Alone Time
Studies show that the more time you have for yourself, the better you perform in other areas of your life. A cluttered mind doesn't help anyone. Just spending fifteen minutes a day alone to do things that you like (whether it's reading or meditating). It can help you both emotionally and physically.
In addition to spending alone time, spending one-on-one time with your significant other can be difficult too, especially with so many distractions. To achieve this, put down your cell phone, share your feelings, and get on the same page as your partner. Not only will you become a better parenting team, but you’ll also keep your emotional connection alive to prevent future quarrels. Can’t find the time? Wake-up fifteen minutes earlier one morning a week and remember to talk about things that are bothering you, things that make you happy, and things that you need help with.
4 Become a Momager
No, not in a Kris Jenner fashion, but more in the everyday mom fashion. Households are a hard thing to run. The list of things to do are endless: taking out the trash, vacuuming, and cleaning up after your kids are just a few of the many chores that can take a full day to complete. To help reduce stress, make a chart that distributes different chores that need to be competed to each member of the household. On the chart, make sure you list the day and time you need the chore to be completed by and check off the task once it’s done. Doing this will also teach your children responsibility and take a little responsibility off your plate.
If you’re stressed about work that’s piling up at the office, make a calendar for yourself that allots personal time for you to play catch-up.
3 Multi-Task Where You Can
Want to get some exercise in but feeling guilty about not playing with your dog or not spending enough time your kids? Opt for a group hike or simple a walk around the neighborhood that everyone can enjoy. A family that plays together, stays together.
Want to catch up with a friend? Suggest going to a yoga class together or call them on the phone while you’re on the treadmill.
Want to start a new hobby, such as cooking classes or pottery, but feel like you should really be spending free time with your aging parents? Ask them if they’d enjoy starting a new hobby with you and make it a family affair.
2 Plan, Plan, and More Planning
The Carters are throwing their annual Spring Awakening Party in two weeks? Perfect. You deserve to have a fun night out with your significant other! But wait, your conscience creeps in and starts telling you, “My kids might have plans,” or “I don’t want to hire a babysitter again,” or the never failing excuse, “I have too much going on.” Don’t worry, because you’re going to plan ahead. Throw a sleepover party at your house this weekend so when the time comes for the Carter’s Party, another parent can host the sleepover party. Take turns with your friends and the parents of your children’s friends in hosting sleepovers to ensure that all parents get equal alone time without having to worry about what their kids are doing.
Stressed about what your family’s going to eat for dinner all week? Easy. Cook as many meals as you can on Sunday so you can freeze them and then reheat them when the time comes. You'll save time, energy and future stress.
You know your little Sally’s dance recital is the same night as your Ben’s soccer practice? Don’t worry – I’m sure there’s a parent on the team that lives close by and is facing the same problem on a different night. Start a group email with the parents of the your child’s activity groups and form a carpool schedule to help relieve stress from all parents. Added Bonus: You’ll help the environment and make new friends!
1 And Finally, Enjoy the Journey
No one ever said being a mom was easy (and if they did, they probably didn't have kids). Schedules are going to change, life is going to get crazy, and there are never enough hours in a day to accomplish all that we want to accomplish. That being said, don't forget that there's no such thing as perfection, no matter how hard we might try. Enjoy the journey and stop being so hard on yourself. The fact that you even read this article proves you're already a SuperMom!