Relationships are built on honesty. Without honesty, there is no relationship. Not a good one anyway. Sometimes, in the beginning of a relationship, one automatically gets good vibes from their new girlfriend or boyfriend. But sometimes, that feeling of trust is missing. Sometimes you just gets the feeling that something isn’t quite right in the relationship, that maybe the person you're with isn’t being completely honest with you. In this day and age, it’s better to be safe than sorry when it comes to dating. Doing a background check with every person you meets isn’t necessary but if that person is showing signs of dishonesty and there’s something a little bit ‘’off’’ about them, maybe it’s time to do one...just to make sure they’re not hiding anything. That’s what these 15 people did and they were shocked by what they found.
15 He’d Spent 22 Years in Prison
You might have your little complaints about your boyfriend or girlfriend but imagine being in this woman’s shoes. After doing a background check on her new boyfriend, she discovered a shocking truth: he’d spent 22 years in prison for murder. Her boyfriend was a murderer. Imagine how shocking that must be. You would be mortified and terrified, wouldn’t you? Then again, she did say she had an ‘’odd gut feeling’’ about the guy and like I said before, in the intro, if you’re having bad feelings about someone, you’re probably not wrong. There’s a reason those feelings of doubts are there so it’s a good – and in this case safe – idea to do a bit of digging on the person you’re dating.
14 He Lied About His Age...And a Lot More
This 18-year-old girl thought she was dating a 35-year-old guy. Well, when someone you start dating tells you their age, you believe it. Why wouldn’t you? What’s the point in lying about your age when the truth always comes out in the end? As it turns out, the guy wasn’t 35 at all. He was actually 42. And that wasn’t the only discovery this woman made after doing some research on the guy. She also found out he had 2 kids. Naturally, the girl dumped him. This isn’t just a little white lie. These are huge lies, the kind of lies that require a drastic response. Believe it or not, it wasn’t his age or kids that made her dump him. It was the other ‘’bad stuff’ she found out about him that led her to do it.
13 The Background Check Joke that Wasn’t So Funny
This girl does a background check on every single guy she dates. Sound a bit drastic? Indeed, it is drastic and if you had to run a background check on every guy you went out with it really would take the fun out of dating. It would kind of make you feel like not bothering at all. Still, this girl has a good reason for doing so. Her friend did one for the first time on a guy she liked as a joke, just to see what would come up. And what came up shook her to the core. It was by no means funny. The guy was a convicted rapist. So you see, she does have a good reason to do background checks but it is sad when you think about it.
12 He Has a Wife
You think you know someone and then you do a background check on them and find out some pretty shocking stuff you’d never believe. Like when this woman did a background check on her new boyfriend and discovered he had a wife. I honestly cannot imagine how tough and heartbreaking that must be. To date someone and then find out you’re not the only woman in his life, that he actually has a wife....tough stuff! It’s got me thinking, why the hell do people lie about this stuff? I may have heard the phrase ‘’the truth always comes out in the end’’ from a movie or TV show, but that doesn’t mean there’s no truth in the saying. The truth does reveal itself in the end. (Dramatic pause!!!)
11 Three Years of Lies
You’ve been with someone for 3 years. You think you know pretty much everything about them. You think you’re both brutally honest with each other and that you’ve been the same way from the beginning. Maybe you think the person is your soul mate. Then you run a background check on that person and find out the whole 3 years has been nothing but an utter lie. That’s what happened to this woman when she did some digging around on her boyfriend. After a 3 year relationship with this guy, she found out he’d been divorced and, after checking his Facebook page that she’d actually created herself (hello, Nancy Drew!), also had a fiancé. What the hell is wrong with some people?!? I hope she dumped him immediately!
10 He Has a Long Term Girlfriend
Online dating still is and always has been a somewhat controversial subject attracting a lot of conflicting opinions. When you hear all those creepy, gruesome stories on the news, it’s easy to see why people have a dim view of online dating. At the same time, online dating can be a miracle for some people. Some people have met their life partners online though dating sites. But sometimes, just like in real life, the person you meet isn’t who you expected them to be. This woman, for example, fell for someone online. They even got to the point where they sent each other dirty pictures. Then one day, she ran a background check and guess what she found out? The guy has a long term girlfriend! There’s no taking those dirty pics back now girl!
9 The Ex with a Lot of Baggage
Not everyone runs background checks on the person they’re currently dating. Some people do them on their exes. This woman did and what she found out wasn’t pretty. It’s probably even worse when you run a background check on your ex because at least when you do it on the person you’ve started dating, you can dump them right away. But with your ex, you know you’ve already dated them for a long time and were totally oblivious to all their dirty secrets. It makes you feel like a fool for never realizing or suspecting anything. There was a lot this woman did not know about her ex when she did some research. Like she says, ‘’You never know who you’re getting.’’ Be careful who you go out with.
8 He/She Had a Fake Identity
Wow! These discoveries just get more and more wild, don’t they? And your heart really goes out to the people dealing with these horrible situations. If you were in the same position, you’d be going out of your mind. I know I would anyway. This individual was definitely going out of their mind when they did some digging around on their date and found out that their date could have been a he or she and may have had a sex change. From the looks of it, they’d changed their identity in order to escape their past crimes. It sounds like something that would happen in a movie, doesn’t it? This one has got to be craziest of them all them all so far, agree? But hang on...there’s more.
7 He Had a Kid
Lies destroy a relationship. If you want a happy, long-lasting relationship, you need to be honest with your partner. Otherwise, what’s the point? What’s the point in hiding things away from the person you’re supposed to be in love with? It just doesn’t make sense. In the end, the liar will get find out when their partner decides to do a background check on them, like this woman did with her boyfriend. But always prepare to be shocked at what you find. It’s obviously not going to be bad in every case but don’t expect to find zero dirt on your boyfriend or girlfriend. This woman found out that her boyfriend had a kid and he’d never told her about it. Why did it take 2 years for this woman to dump this loser???
6 She Wasn’t the Girl in the Pictures
This is a typical online dating stereotype. It’s the reason many people avoid online dating like the plague: fake pictures. I know people want to attract attention and maybe, if they don’t feel so confident about their looks, they prefer putting up a picture of a more attractive person. I get that. But if you really want a real relationship – you know, the kind where you meet the person face to face – then you need to get your priorities right. Put your real picture up. What I don’t get is how the person thinks they’re going to get away with it. This guy urges everyone to not get too attached online because when he did a background check on the girl he was talking to online, he discovered she wasn’t the girl in the pictures.
5 He Was a Sex Offender
Nothing could trump this discovery. You see, you just never know who you’re getting involved with these days. You think you know someone and then bam! They are nothing like what you expected them to be. Your heart really goes out to this poor woman. Not only did she find out, after running a background check, that her boyfriend was with her friend, she also discovered he had a criminal record. Child porn had been found on his laptop and he’d spent 6 years on the sex offender list. She discovered all of this four months after dating this absolute scumbag. You would feel sick to the stomach knowing you went out with this guy and had romantic feelings for this guy. Yuck! Poor, poor woman!
4 This Couple Did Checks on Each Other
It’s kind of creepy that this couple decided to do background checks on each other but I guess if it keeps their minds at ease, good for them. Hearing all these horrible stories makes you consider running background checks not just on dates but on every person in your life. It makes you feel like you don’t know anybody these days. To be fair, they met online which is why they both did background checks on each other. It’s better to be safe than sorry and it gives you peace of mind when you know your new boyfriend or girlfriend hasn’t been arrested for murder or something like that. They feel like it’s a great way to know each other and at least they both know they’re safe.
3 He Has a Criminal Record
Another criminal! It’s unbelievable how many background checks revealed criminals on this list. It makes you wonder, who the hell are you dating? Who are you sharing your life with? This woman did some research online to see what she could find out about the guy she’d met on Tinder and made a shocking discovery: he had a criminal record. At least, they’d only met online and hadn’t started physically dating just yet. She’d done it all just in time. So you see, especially when you’re meeting people online, you have time to run a background check. You can do one easily enough with a simple Google search. You can pretty much find anything and everything about someone online. Just don’t let it turn you into a psycho stalker freak.
2 He Was Discharged From the Army For Having Drugs
You’re probably wondering by now how you continue dating with all of these creepy background check revelations swimming through your head. The fact is, you don’t need to be too worried. You can still date without needing to do background checks on every person. And if there’s one thing you’ll notice from these confessions is that, the majority of the time, these people had a weird gut feeling about the person. Most of the time, there are warning signs. For example, this girl got the red flag when he boyfriend stole her sister’s prescribed Adderal. It doesn’t make any sense. It’s odd behavior. After carrying background check on the guy, she found out he’d been discharged from and arrested by the army for possessing ADHD drugs.
1 When You Find Strange Things About Yourself
This person decided to do a background check on themselves. Not a date. Not a friend. Not the guy at the store. But on himself. He wanted to see what he could find out about himself with a simple background check and I think he got more than he bargained for. A full background check revealed some unbelievable things about this guy. You see, you can even learn things about yourself from a background check. This guy probably wished he hadn’t bothered looking when he found out more than he should have. So once you have run all your background checks on all the people in your life, have a go at running a background check on yourself. You won’t believe what you may find.